Friend talks about money

I wouldn't mind really, I would probably find it quite interesting.

Tell her you feel it is rude to speak about money so will not do so .

Poor lass, she probably lacks confidence and wants to impress you.

Be nice - tell her you love her anyway, and that you don’t think real friends need to talk about money.

Next time she does this can’t you simply ask if you can talk about something else - have a few topics up your sleeve? Or tell her that you bought one just like it for half the price. Oh, I don’t know! I have a friend who when I ring her up, talks about her two sons and their families constantly. When I’ve had enough I say that I either need the loo or I’m really thirsty!

deal with it the same as any other topic you don't want to talk about ansd change the subject.

Does she spend a lot or little on these items? If she doesn't spend very much she's probably quite pleased to tell you about her bargains.

I know money talk seems to bother some people but it has never bothered me. Some talk about it when referring to a bargain they have got or to brag or just state the cost of something. We are all different, the cost of things is a talking point to some.

Have you tried to find other topics of conversation that you could both enjoy talking about?

Perhaps you could ask her what other interests she has and mention that you are happy she has all these things and that they obviously make her happy, but that you really prefer not to talk about money, so you would like to find some other things to talk about.

You get people like this. They must tell you how much everything cost no matter what it is. Just let it go in one ear and out of the other and say " that's nice " as Mrs Brown would say
Even changing the subject often gives them another opportunity to include money, poor souls, though I wouldn't be able to keep a straight face knowing what was coming next.
That's how much I take them seriously.

It might be a stage of life thing too. When you're young and not yet well established, money can seem extremely important since it's tied in to worries about succeeding in your career and building wealth and just feeling like you are capable of reaching a good level in life.

So her constant references to money could be anxiety about all that, reassuring herself or wanting validation that she is doing well, she is being wise enough and etc. to make it in life.

I've found it pretty common with younger adults but if they're still doing it into their forties or fifties then I'd find it a bit strange.

People tend to do the same with other phases of life, like when they start having children. I recall every aspect being quite fascinating, whether about diapers or feeding or child developmental milestones but now it makes my eyes glaze over.

Maybe you and this friend are just not in places in life that meet up that well right now.

Is there something you havent mentioned that makes you stay friends with her?

Otherwise think about the positive and negative aspects you bring to each others relationship and judge whether you are 'encouraging' her behaviour, without even realising.
Could be you are just not good for one another!

Tell her that you've come up on the Premium Bonds, that'll shut her up

You must find this very annoying. But what is worse is when people ask you how much you earn and how much you spend on something like my sister constantly does. Then she gets annoyed if she thinks I can afford something that she can’t.

I’ve a ‘friend’ who makes saving a bob or two her life’s mission. It’s unattractive. An example: she asks for a coffee when I’m paying, tea when she can’t avoid buying the drinks herself. She is comfortably off and bristles with oneupmanship as she climbs out of a new car at our agreed meeting place. Sadly it’s wasted on me: on the car front ‘it works’ does me. Once, pre-Covid, I’d thrown my change on the tray at the till (too much to deal with at that moment as I wrestled with bag, coat etc). I left the money on the tray as I settled into my seat opposite this ‘friend’. I realised she was really distracted by the few coins, all but twitching!

Tea3, I have a friend like that. I have been friends with her since primary school and love her dearly but, oh, she is tight with money. She had a good job and has a pension equivalent to mine.
I just accept it when she itemizes bills in restaurants to ensure she is only paying for what she had, but when she has more than me decides to halve the bill. She wears the same clothes year in, year out, except for a couple of new cheapest tee-shirts each year. She has been in her current house 25 years and has never decorated it, changed the carpets or bought anything new for it. Every penny is pondered over. However, I know her childhood was difficult and contributes to her poverty mentality.
The one time it got to me, though, was when a waiter poured us each a glass of wine. She picked up the two glasses, decided there was more in mine than hers, and swapped them.

My OH was like that when I met him. I found it very strange. After a while I gently said ‘you know I don’t really care how much things are. I like you for you’. He looked amazed and said it was all his ex wife was interested in. I realised it was his ‘learned behaviour’. He thought that’s what other people found interesting. He soon stopped once I told him. Be gentle. But do say. If it doesn’t change then I’m afraid it’s a put up or shut up situation.

I think my friend trumps all the above ?
She takes a teabag with her and asks for a cup of hot water ?
This is a woman who owns 3 properties. The one she lives in was inherited.

Someone I knew used to turn off the ignition and coast down hills in order to save petrol. We always feared that he would accidentally engage the steering lock. He would also drive many miles to find the cheapest petrol.

I've got a friend (she's 40, so more like my eldest son's age) who is the same - everything is money-driven with her. Her holidays, husband's salary, car, her child's designer clothes, etc. I don't know why she's like it, as her parents are like me, live in a smallish house, have had ordinary jobs, and don't brag.

I can only think there must be some underlying insecurities somewhere. The best you could do would be to pity this woman, change the subject when she's talking (distraction techniques) or stop being friends with her.

My eldest son who is successful is a bit like this but once we pointed out to him that his brothers and ourselves loved him anyway and we were proud of how he’s has done he’s tamed it down a bit. Still rocks up in posh new cars but after we’ve seen them and said nice’ he’s just our son again and talks normal .

It's something that started in the 1980s, I have noticed when money and making money was king !
Maybe she doesn't feel valued unless she can show that she is well off and it was something that has been impressed on her by her parents from a young age? They may have told her at some point that she will be nothing or get nowhere unless she has plenty to live on or maybe she comes from a background where there was a lack of money and feels she needs to talk about what she has, to wipe out some difficult memories?
All you can do is tell her that you never talk about your income as you feel that it's a private thing and you don't feel comfortable the way that everything seems to be ruled by money these days. Hopefully, she will get the hint and if not, just let her ramble on- that's just the way she is.

I have a SIL who years ago, used to phone me at least 3 times a week, and the conversation always reverted to her and her and her husband's money situation, which I might add was "how well off they were". I used to hold the phone and sit and occasionally make a sound, but when she was in full flow there was no stopping her (usually the same script every time !).......this went on for quite a while and I honestly can't remember when or how it stopped, perhaps she realised I wasn't interested at all. As a matter of interest we hardly ever speak on the phone these days......perhaps she finally got my silent message. It was purely a "look at me with all my money" ego trip for her.

TBH I am a nosy person so would find it quite interesting! It doesn't sound like she's grilling you for your financial details so maybe you just need to grin and bear it, she is probably insecure and doesn't know what else to talk about.

I had a friend who kept talking about money, then she started asking me to lend her £5000 and really putting the pressure on. It was our entire savings so there was no way. I started to avoid her then we moved and I did not rely to her texts and ended our friendship.