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Friend talks about money

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greenlady102 Fri 21-May-21 18:22:39

deal with it the same as any other topic you don't want to talk about ansd change the subject.

Ladyleftfieldlover Fri 21-May-21 18:17:47

Next time she does this can’t you simply ask if you can talk about something else - have a few topics up your sleeve? Or tell her that you bought one just like it for half the price. Oh, I don’t know! I have a friend who when I ring her up, talks about her two sons and their families constantly. When I’ve had enough I say that I either need the loo or I’m really thirsty!

geekesse Fri 21-May-21 18:08:13

Poor lass, she probably lacks confidence and wants to impress you.

Be nice - tell her you love her anyway, and that you don’t think real friends need to talk about money.

Floradora9 Fri 21-May-21 17:48:03

Tell her you feel it is rude to speak about money so will not do so .

Ilovecheese Fri 21-May-21 11:10:11

I wouldn't mind really, I would probably find it quite interesting.

TwinLolly Fri 21-May-21 11:07:27

I have a younger friend who, whenever I see her, talks about money.

She talks about how much she earns from doing this, that and the other; she talks about how much her husband earns from his job (self-employed), and how much he will earn once he takes on a permanent job.

She also talks about how much they earn from having a cottage rental (adjoining their own house, but separate entrance) which is rented out.

She also often tells me how much they paid for this and that - whether it be chairs or a new window, car, new bushes for a hedge; how much she has in savings; and much more.

More recently she she showed me the inside of their rental cottage and then pointed out different items, how much each cost and from where she got them.

I'm not sure what to make of it all. I never talk about money or how much things cost in my own house or how much we have paid for an item. And to talk about how much we have earned - it is rather private.

To me a friendship is not based on money. I have lovely friends who are very poor, and well off friends.

I've listened politely, over and over again. I don't want to seem unreasonable, but I really don't want to hear about earnings and what the cost was of items any more.

What would you do in such a situation?