Did your Mum ever say she loved you?

No. But she had us so someone would love her is my theory. Long story and we are estranged due to a lifetime of dysfunction and she refuses to see her part in it.

Nor did we ever have any physical contact (hugs and such). As a result, I am uncomfortable with physical affection from anyone but my kids and mostly my husband. I am just not a touchy feely person and I dont want to hug anyone, except my kids.

I tell my kids I love them every day. I hug them as often as I can.

I do not want my kids to grow up wondering if they are loved. They absolutely are.

No. Neither parent ever said I love you, and they were not demonstrative either, but I tell my children and grandchildren frequently.

Perhaps I should go on Oprah and start whining.

No, never.
I got the impression I was just a nuisance to be tolerated.

My mum used to sing it to me. "I love you, yes I do, I love you" the opening line to the old song "It's a sin to tell a lie".

No, she was a narcissist.

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No. Absolutely not. Never.

No. I always assumed she did, though.

I can't remember it being said as such but I knew our parents loved us very much and showed it in their actions. The words on their own mean little.

Neither of my parents did.mum was adopted and bought up with Methodists was very happy too.dad came from a large family of 13. So it was a rough way to grow up.grandma was great raising that many kids.so no neither said I love you.first time I hugged my mum was about 1997 about a year before she died.was taught to hug at church.my dad used to hug me when he cane home from work I would be about 4 then .so we don't come from a "loving" family.Shame really .

No never. She always made it clear that I was a mistake. She also made it clear that she didn't like me. We were just totally different people, she got on so much better with my younger sister, who experienced a totally different childhood from me. No slaps or "clips round the ear" for her. I lived most of my childhood in fear of my mother, my sister didn't experience this. My mother was also jealous of my relationship with my dad, hated us to spend time together. The way that I was treated by her has contributed to my social anxiety and depression which has existed to this day. I have never been able to fit into groups, or make & keep friends, I still have this feeling of not being wanted & lack of confidence.

My mother did but I remember her being hurt when I started refusing to be kissed as a child.. Also, she was big on words and hugs but very selfish in her actions. Worked full time and out every night.

I was brought up in the '50s/'60s. I don't remember anyone ever telling someone they loved them except in films.
Our household was violent and chaotic. Love didn't come into it. Surely you know whether someone loves you without them saying so. The word is bandied about now by all and sundry.

So true Kate.

Yes, my mother was very demonstrative and cuddly. With my own children, they are now both abroad and I wish I could be a bit more soppy so they know they are loved, but I’ve always struggled with displays of affection. Nothing to do with my parents bless them, they made us children feel very safe and loved.

As a child I remember my mum saying she loved me, but not really as an adult, although I knew she did. She came from a family that isn't big on showing signs of affection, or voicing them, even though they all love each other. I think it often depends on the way you're brought up.

However, my dad's large family are all very close, and have always said, "Love you" to each other. My dad told me he loved me every time I spoke to him, right up until the day he passed away. When mum was terminally ill I realised that whilst I always told my dad I loved him, I rarely said it to my mum, which I regretted. I made sure she knew how much I loved her when she was ill, but I wished I'd done it more often. That experience actually brought my DD and I closer together, and we now always tell each other, "Love you", after every phone/video call. My DS, on the other hand, is not a person who says it often, and he doesn't like displays of affection, but when he's had a few drinks he'll often put his arms around me and say, "I really love you, mum!" That means the world to me.

I do think Kate1949 is correct though, saying, surely you know whether someone loves you without them saying so. It really isn't just about words.

No never

No way it wasn’t the done thing in that generation, thankfully things are more tactile these days, I say it to my son and daughter they say it back to me . Hurrah for change

Never. Not in word or deed.

Mum often sang ‘I love you and don’t you forget it’ to us when we were younger. Dad was away a lot and not so verbally demonstrative, though he was a hugger.
There was always a hug for a hurt or at bedtime. Even as adults, as we leave there’s a hug and a ‘don’t forget to ring when you get home.
We say ‘love you’ a lot more than than they used to, but I don’t think it was lack of love, just different times.

Mum would tell me she loved me as a child and an adult. Her mum didn't when mum was a child but did later in life to mum and her GC.

No never, although my mother did make a point of telling me that she had never loved me!

Probably not but I knew I was loved so I don't think it mattered.

My parents took good care of us, we always had food, clothes and toys, but they never said the words 'I love you', I did think it maybe because we were adopted. I vowed not to let my children ask 'did Mum ever say she loved us? I did find it hard at first but I now tell my children and grandchildren all the time. Looking back I think it may have been a sign of the times.

Your post made me think, and I don't remember her ever saying it but I've just always known she did. I had an exceptionally happy childhood which I took for granted at the time and didn't realise it until other people told me about theirs. For some reason I've always said it to my children and notice they say it to theirs. Perhaps it's a generation thing.