Did your Mum ever say she loved you?

Don't remember her saying it, except in a 'just as well we love you' way when disappointed in something I'd done

My mum never said it to me but did to my brothers but she didn’t want me. My dad did all the time. I never said it to my lads but when my oldest son was going to Iraq I said it to him then. It took my son to go war for me to say it. But since that day Ive said to them both every time they visit or on the phone etc. Also tell my grandkids I love them to the moon and back. I get all the hugs and love you back off them all. I don’t want any of mine to say after I’ve gone my mum never said I love you. Because mine know I do.

As I said before, my mum has said recently that she loves me, but it’s rare and certainly not spontaneous. My mum wanted to control my sister and I and that seemed to her main objective. My sister was more difficult to control than I was, and so consequently she has tried harder to be there for her than me. With me it’s what I give to her that’s important, because my sister does absolutely nothing for her now. So still mum chases her, she doesn’t need to chase me because she knows I’ll always do the right thing and look after her. My mother betrayed me, she refused to believe me when my brother in law sexually assaulted me (not rape) and she threw me out of the house. She then instead tried to turn me against my boyfriend by saying he had stolen some green shield stamp books she couldn’t find. They turned up years later. But kept on accusing him when anything was lost for ten years. I married him anyway as I knew what a good man he really is. Eventually she stopped her nasty accusations after I didn’t speak to her for a year. Now he does so, so much for her, she thinks he’s the best thing since sliced bread because he does everything for her. She says he’s wonderful and tells everyone how wonderful her son in law is. I love her but I don’t know why. She wasn’t a good mother. But I’m a good daughter.

No, I never remember my Mum telling me she loved me. She was easy to criticise me though. She passed away on 25/5/21 and we had the funeral last week. She suffered with advanced dementia and had another heart attack which killed her. In the hospital she didn’t know me but grabbed my hand and kissed it.

I’ve been married to my husband for 47 years and he’s been a wonderful husband and a brilliant father and grandfather. Despite my mum trying to get rid of him I married him because I knew what a good man he is.

Never said to me by my parents or grandparents.... just known! I think it’s bandied about so much now , it begins to jade, and become a throwaway phrase! Don’t think I said it to my kids either...but my daughter says it to hers and to me and her brother all the time. My son always seems uncomfortable when you say it to him so you have to make it ‘off the cuff’ . We’re all different. I knew instinctively I was loved.... I hope my kids know it too. And my grandkids !

No. I told her once and she replied with 'that's nice to know'. Always told my children and tell my grandchildren

Yes but actions speak louder than words. It's easy to say but then to be treated unkindly in other ways.

Mum always said it to us n still does at the grand old age of a 101 years young!

It wasn’t a regular occurrence but I knew I was loved and so did my siblings. One of the last conversations that I had with her was when she explained how much she loved me and how special I was to her. She too knew how loved she was despite it not being said as part of every greeting or farewell. Our family motto is ‘By deeds ,not words’.

I don't know quite what to write here but am feeling so deeply sad for the people who have said their mothers didn't show love, or showed that they were not wanted. Such a terrible thing for a child and so hard for the adult the child becomes. I do hope in adulthood people have found others who are real friends and care about them, and have found ways to heal and move on. So good that some people who suffered in childhood have chosen to use that to guide them in being more loving as parents. I hope the embrace of GN helps even a little.

I don’t recall my mother having said ‘I love you’ to me, but she constantly said ‘I don’t know what I’d do without you’ - perhaps that was her way of saying ‘I love you’. Too late to ask now.

No, but as I was young during the war years and we were bombed out of our homes 3 times and my Dad posted as missing presumed killed, I think she hardly had time to catch her breath! Luckily Dad was eventually found in a hospital but it was a difficult time. I think my parents just showed their love in how they brought my sister and me up without actually saying the words.

I was never told by either of my parents that they loved me, my Mother would always tell my brothers they were loved though.
I have always made sure i have told my children and grandchildren that I love them.

No never. No kisses or cuddles, she wasn't that sort of person, just a pat on the head now and then. I think her mother was the same with her.

When our sons were young they didn't like hugs and kisses or spoken endearments either. They'd squirm away and say "Dad, Mum's getting all soppy again!" But now that they're adults and have their own children they've mellowed, and accept hugs and the occasional 'Luv you" from me. Maybe it's just that they now realise we're getting older and won't be around forever so they indulge us.

My mum would often tousle my hair and call me a silly bugger! Does that count?

My Mum would always say “I love every hair in your head”. I really miss her

I can't remember, but I know she did. Perhaps not by actually saying often, but shown in lots of other ways. She didn't push us away when we hugged her. She made us cocoa and tucked us into bed, kissed us goodnight. She worried about us
( too much ), and she stayed when I think she wanted to leave.
My daughter remembers me saying to them - " I am such a lucky mummy to have you two. I love you lots ".
Since I was ill ( I am better now ) we end each phone call or visit by saying " Love you lots " and mean it.

My mother never said it to me. She used to say that she hates girls and only ever wanted boys from as early as I remember. It was that way all my life.
My father was different and shared his time and attention equally even though he was a busy man. I would be allowed to be with him whilst he pottered at weekends with cars or in the garden and taken to football matches for company. My brothers never wanted to spend time with either parent. My father gave me away on my wedding day and on the drive there told me that he loved me. I already knew it in my heart but had never heard it said. It was very emotional.
My mother remained a cold and spiteful woman until the day she died. It was very sad.
I do tell my children and grandchildren that I love them and happily they love to spend time with me too.

Course not - people didn't then - judged by what you did not what you said.

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It wasn't said regularly when I was brought up in the 70's - but I knew that my parents loved me - purely by their actions.

I try not to be over-bearing, but tell my children I love them every day - sometimes several times ... although now they're teenagers I feel I have to be a little more discrete!

I want them to feel loved and secure, despite me feeling I was it is so nice to be told ... providing it's meaningful and not a throw away comment.

It's all about the quality of the hugs and kisses and the sentiment of the words spoken and not the frequency that's important.... this said I literally can't hug my little lot enough!

NEVER! She loved her garden more than she loved her children (and grandchildren). Pity really.

We began doing this in the last few years before she died. In fact 'l love you' was the last thing l ever said to her. At first it felt awkward but became more natural over time.

Never, it would not have even entered her head, criticise yes always up for that, but never a kind word or a cuddle. Only thing I do recall is a swift peck on the cheek before I set off on my 3mile + cycle across common land to school at 5 years old!