Anyone know if *Iam64* is ok?

In my case I think it was the clothes accessory who did a lot of damage and then vanished back to Blackpool.

Thank you Jane
It was Grandmajet to whom I was referring. Very sad news

Charleygirl it's good to see you here. I had noticed that you were lying low.
If it was a proven troll who caused trouble for you, surely that should 'absolve' you?

No, it is worse than a jail sentence, no time off for good behaviour. I was in the wrong apparently because the clothing accessory stated he/she had MH problems.

Good to see you back Charleygirl5

I'm glad I found this thread this morning and to see that I'm not the only member missing EV.

She was very kind to me when I was struggling with a diagnosis earlier in the year. We were communicating via PM and she helped me to see it wasn't necessarily a 'life sentence'.

I am finally getting weekly in-person doctor's appointments and am very much improved. I would have liked her to know how much she helped me. Sad that she can no longer receive my messages.

She relied on GN for friendship and support too. I hope she can at least read how much some members appreciated her.

who is the clothing accessory?

so much is over my head. I don't think anyone has ever upset me either

Jane it's before your time.
I only just caught the tail end of it. I will pm you

I’m a very occasional poster but thoroughly enjoy reading all the news and ‘goings-on’ that people write about, particularly regular posters. The fact that they are happy to share their daily ups and downs brings me a lot of comfort, so a huge thank you to you all.

I do hate it when a regular poster disappears and find myself worrying about them, and occasionally we get sad news. It is better to know than carry on fearing the worst.

I admit to being particularly fond of the Scottish contingent so was very sorry to read about the problem with an English poster. We’re not all like that, thankfully.

Now I don’t have time to read the Good Morning thread as I’ve spent so long here!

^EV told me that she was on a final warning, I guess you have your answer, if your PM was undeliverable. Such a pity! sad
She was in her eighties, living on her own, with lots of family worries. The caring face of Gransnet^

I think that’s appalling and, seeing as GN only act when someone’s reported a post, I hope the one(s) responsible are proud of themselves. The pettiness on here from some on this forum is pathetic.

I’m sorry EV has disappeared. I can’t imagine what she’s done to upset anyone, she always seemed very sensible.

tickingbird that's appalling.
I honestly can't imagine what EV could have said that was even slightly inappropriate.
Is anyone in contact with her?

Cross post Maddy
It's telling that we all seem to share the same puzzlement

Very sad about grandmajet.

Great to see to you MissA. Hope you feel better soon.

Is it wise for the thread to start referring to a particular member in a slightly derogatory way, even by hinting at the username?
I think not.
Just saying, that it usually ends badly.

Thank you, smileless

Like Charley I too joined in 2011 with the username, Agus. On a thread a few years ago, one poster misread my name and thought I was a man called Angus. I was then pursued with suggestive PMs until I changed my username!? Phew!

I often wonder about those posters I enjoyed having a blether with back then. Iam64 and JaneRowena are two I particularly miss.

I can’t remember the excuse given by those who will be obeyed but I received a severe knuckle rapping twice, first time ever on GN, due to asking the one who flies, an innocent question!

I may have been unwise MissA. Fair point.

Kalu Asking an innocent question is stepping on dangerous ground. One caused me a lot grief. Sorry you got reported for your's.

Sadly sometimes posters decide to take a break from Gransnet, for whatever reason. It’s sad when a poster is banned though.

I am very sorry to hear about Ellan Valin, I forgot to mention her with the others I hoped were okay and would come back. She often made interesting contributions particularly with reference to her nursing days many years ago and it wasn't a secret that she was one of the more elderly grandmas on this site. Sometimes she said things that other posters took exception to, of course that is likely to happen when any cross section of people get together, age and life experiences shape us all to some degree. I do hope she hasn't been banned for life, that seems to feed into the pervasive "no platforming" that is prevalent today.

Thanks Charley, glad to know that Phoenix is doing OK. I never want to be intrusive. I realise some people just stop posting for so many reasons, as is their right of course.

It would be quite hurtful to think that no one even notices you are not around anymore. So best wishes to ALL missing posters. .

I still think a pinned post where you add your name if you are leaving/having a break, (no explanation needed) would be a good idea.

GNHQ should really stop threatening to impose these lifetime bans, it is very cruel and I'm sure it can cause mental health problems for the person concerned. GN is often the only contact they have with the outside world. HQ seem to often act following reporting from just one or two people only, who "have got it in for" someone. That is so unfair.

Fair enough to threaten/impose a ban, but surely not forever??? HQ are young and cannot empathise with an older person who's alone. The consequences of a permanent ban could be serious, and HQ should realise that.

Sometimes most of us will say something that someone else disagrees with, that’s to be expected. But reporting something should only be done in the rarest of circumstances. There are one or two abrasive posters, thankfully in the minority, but I prefer to let it stand so all can see what they’ve said, but I don’t engage with them any further. There is only one poster I won’t engage with at all, and they’re not on this thread.
Still can’t think what EV could possibly have said.

I agree maddyone, it’s better just to avoid anybody who posts particularly obnoxious responses, you soon get to know who they are. I do wonder though if it’s those people who are doing the reporting, or if there are lurkers who do it, because I do think some of the more abrasive posters do post deliberately provocative things to get the reaction, and it spoils their game if they report?

Fair enough to threaten/impose a ban, but surely not forever??? HQ are young and cannot empathise with an older person who's alone. The consequences of a permanent ban could be serious, and HQ should realise that

The generational differences on social media sites are far from being always recognised.
I might throw my hands up in horror at some of the attitudes on MN (although as I don’t actually look at it, I may be wrong here, but we do sometimes get references to MN opinions here on GN) and rarely even look at Twitter as it seems to be st the root of so much trouble. Likewise despite invitations to post on Instagram, I have never seen the point . So in the same way, while a MN or Twitter “ban” or suspension - and I imagine these are for seriously overstepping the lines of what is decent or acceptable - the effect of the same on an (often) elderly person, perhaps bereaved, isolated, lonely, possibly with major health or mobility issues but most of all in need of friendship, cannot be brushed off lightly.

As they say, “been there, got the t shirt”

seacliff
Well said, I agree.