How would you react

H showed bad manners and bad taste. His remark was discourteous, and his attitude was over- familiar with the salesman.

Some people are socially inept and this is an example. I don't believe H intended any harm .

If this truly happened, from the way you talk about men and women as "boys" and "girls" and your remark "boys will be boys" I guess the sort of man you married reflected those views. Personally, I would feel disrespected and hurt and I don't think I would ever feel the same about my husband again.

If this is totally out of character, then perhaps it is the beginning of an age-related health issue.

My ex kept making comments about young slim girls when I was heavily pregnant and not feeling too good. The final straw came when he said he wished I looked like one particular movie star ...... I then said “so do I, then I wouldn’t be stuck here with you” ?? he didnt like that at all, but at least it shut him up ? some men are just so insensitive to others.

I would have been furious and would have told him off, aloud, in front of those present.

I have never experienced this attention seeking sort of behaviour from my ex husband or current partner,they have too much respect for themselves and know how to behave with people.
I feel his behaviour was immature and stupid and he was trying hard to be funny. He just came across as pathetic.
I hope now he has apologised to you, he thinks about his behaviour, feels embarrased and you do not get a repeat of it.

I’m 64 and have a relatively long fuse, but his comment would have caused me to call him out on it there and then. How dare he disrespect you in that way.

Apart from the disrespect to you, which you really should address, comments like that have no place in today’s world. He really needs to learn this before someone who’s response isn’t limited by their employment really slaps him down.

I'd maybe mention to him that disinhibition can be an early sign of dementia and maybe he needs an assessment. Maybe realising that people will think there is something wrong with him will encourage him to behave himself.

To be frank, it’d be so unlike my dh, that I’d be wondering (as a pp suggested) whether dementia was rearing its hideous head, since inappropriate behaviour can certainly be a sign.

Though TBH I’d probably have noticed other telltale signs beforehand.

That sort of thing would be beneath my notice!! It wouldnt be but that's what men like that want- attention. He waned a bit of very inappropriate male bonding with your salesman over this female salesperson. Needs to feel he is still 'one of the guys'. Ignore him don't let him see it upset you and then find a way to let him feel your displeasure!

FannyCornforth

Lucca

Like my sister Kate ?

I don’t get it

You're too young to know it!
Sometimes age has its advantages (not often, I'll admit)

youtu.be/SGvTyYWbLQY

Lucca

Like my sister Kate ?

I don’t get it

Oh I wish…..!

Like my sister Kate ?

I still think OP meant “shimmy”

Disgraceful and disrespectful behaviour towards both the saleswoman and his wife.
If Orlin behaved in that way he’d be eating his testicles on toast today.

This would not have been normal behaviour for my late husband, I would have immediately have thought of some kind of brain deterioration as this kind of disinhibited comment can be an early sign.

Lucca

FannyCornforth

Lucca

How do you “shimmer “?

It’s a term Wodehouse often used to describe how Jeeves would enter and leave a room.

Thank you O fount of all knowledge!

I’ve just tried it but not sure I pulled it off quite.

Thanks Lucca
(Showing my ignorance, it's surprising how much I knew but have forgotten.)

I still want to know if you bought a new car, OP.
We're thinking of changing ours - what would you recommend?

FannyCornforth

Lucca

How do you “shimmer “?

It’s a term Wodehouse often used to describe how Jeeves would enter and leave a room.

Thank you O fount of all knowledge!

I’ve just tried it but not sure I pulled it off quite.

I would have loved it if the salesman had told your dh off and please leave the premises, that kind of behaviour was not accepted

Maybe then OP's husband would learn his actions have consequences

I would be fuming at how rude my H had been. I would have left the showroom and refused to deal with them unless my H could keep his comments to himself. I think it was very disrespectful and sexist.

LTB ?

I would have been embarrassed and angry in equal measure.

I would have said loudly to young girls ears. 'Am sorry, he hasn't taken his tablets today.' It sexual harassment of a young girl and not appropriate.