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15yo being horrendously bullied at school

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Jwalker Tue 07-Sept-21 01:12:17

15yo worked hard to get into a certain school which starts back on wednesday and he's got half a year left

The problem is he's been getting bullied it's quite shocking and the schools been doing nothing about it

He's understandably getting really stressed and anxious about going back and has started self harming again after being clean

If you've got experience dealing w this, what can realistically be done?

Chardy Tue 07-Sept-21 16:02:20

NotSpaghetti I've looked on the websites of six colleges (2 of which are huge) that I've had links with, and can only find GCSE courses for Maths, English and Science.
I searched the colleges under '14-16' and found one policy document, and 2 links to other colleges who offered no GCSE courses other than Maths and English, and assorted vocational courses, Animal Care, Hair & Beauty, Motor Vehicle Maintenance etc.
I don't doubt it's available, but it doesn't seem very common, and possibly not the thing for an academic pupil.
I think we're both agreed he shouldn't go back this term.

Doodle Tue 07-Sept-21 16:19:58

Bullying doesn’t have to be physical to do real harm to a child. Also fighting back doesn’t always end up helping as the school then have something to blame the bullied child for (not fair but believe me it happens)
Exclusion, name calling are also bullying and just as damaging as a punch.
I would suggest the school be asked (in writing) to sort it out now before he goes back to school. If they don’t sort it, keep him home. The authorities will then investigate why he is not at school and you can tell them about the bullying and perhaps get help enforcing your request with the school.
Please don’t make him go to school if things are that bad. He can catch up with education later in other ways. College courses even online studying but don’t make him have to face these bullies every day.
I am not going into personal details here but don’t give up hope. If he misses school, even years, he can catch up and succeed in the right environment. Good luck

DiscoDancer1975 Tue 07-Sept-21 17:00:32

Going through ‘ procedures’ may be the right way, but you may not have time for this. He could become so much worse waiting. I’d remove him. This is an important year, and could make a huge difference to how he does in his exams.

Forsythia Tue 07-Sept-21 17:05:45

I’d keep him off school. They will have a home school link worker who will investigate his absence. If it were my son, and it was possible, I’d move him to a different school and that may involve going privately if you can afford it. You are not then bound by catchment areas. If it’s only for six months it may be something worth looking into. His mental health and future confidence is the most important factor here.

NotSpaghetti Tue 07-Sept-21 17:49:12

Maybe, Chardy you are looking in the pre-16 options?

That said they won't teach Latin or more unusual subjects anyway.

My local one (just looked) only offers English, Maths the 3 sciences, sociology, history, psychology, Religious Studies and Spanish.
It also does loads of engineering /technology/computer courses and arts/performance courses as HNC/D
It definitely used to do more GCSEs I would say including Law, Geography and more languages.

Even so, it may not be what a particular young person wants. One of mine went to three different colleges to get the mix she wanted. One year she was at two simultaneously. She also did a mix of A levels and GCSEs at the same time.

I think it's about seeing what is acceptable to this young person. Just doing the basics may be enough for now anyway... much less stress.

My home-educated grandson has been doing some GCSEs
online via zoom
nad has been enjoying those. Maybe that's a way forward for Jwalker's 15 year old.
He may be happy to look at college or a different school next year...

Or maybe they aren't in the UK as their school year seems to finish in March?