What do I get dh for birthday.

Yes, a family get together with a takeaway means that everyone can relax and enjoy themselves. We do it a lot here - for no special reason - get everything delivered and sometimes I'll make dessert or a cake.

How about Fudge? Etsy have lots of options to personalise a gift box of fudge. The Cambridge Fudge Company is heaven!

If you ask around a local catering firm might be doing afternoon tea boxes to keep solvent. I have used one on a few occasions lately.They were a big hit and I did not have to do any catering.They even supplied a cake.
My dh husband always wanted to play an instrument and I bought him one with a teach yourself manual and video. It went down really well.
The other thing I have got for a big birthday was a voucher for a shop selling telescopes we live in a very dark area and it was a very big hit

For my DH's 80th Birthday last year My DDs organise a trip to the farm he was brought up in, which he enjoyed immensely, but he has raved about the chippie his sister decided we should go for a late lunch. We are visiting his sister next week, I bet he will want to visit the chippie again!
Don't know if that will give you any ideas?

Me and my DH think it’s a waste of money buying just for the sake of it if there’s really nothing you want so we didn’t do birthday presents this year and just ended up having a take away for our silver wedding anniversary as our spa break was cancelled due to covid
These things would have upset me years ago but not anymore

Coolgran65 - a family gathering with a theme - I’ve made kebabs, bought olives, Turkish bread, houmous and roasted veg with halloumi - everyone has to learn a few words of Turkish and a fact about Turkey that they can offer around the table - you can change the focus and make it a Greek theme or French, Spanish or Italian - it’s just a little bit different as it’s more entertaining - I went to a friend’s house one evening for an Indian takeaway and he was dressed accordingly and playing Indian music - it would have been more fun had he asked us all to enter into the spirit of the evening but as it was we had unusual talking points.

A nice fruit hamper from Gogo fruit or a cheese hamper from Neills yard are my two favourite presents. Would he like any of those?

You have my sympathies! When you’ve been together for many years, you’ve been down every possible route. My DH had a birthday recently, but I only came up with pretty boring stuff like pyjamas etc, not exciting but necessary and at least something to unwrap. Oh ams a book he wanted. Our two girls were a little more imaginative, one gave him some very luxurious sheepskin slippers from Celtic, other brands available, and the other made a hamper of Italian food and wine which he’s particularly fond of. Excellent selection at selfridges but fearsomely pricey! All very well received.

For the family gathering there are companies that provide afternoon tea deliveries. I've had two and both have been fantastic. Sure a birthday cake could be incorporated. For a present would DH be interested in a picture of the family gathering. Provide a frame with an IOU of a photo.

An experience day is good I treated DH to Aston Martin day then another one was Birds of prey.

For my husband’s 70th recently, I bought him a drone. It cost about £500 so pricey but it was a special birthday. He absolutely loves it, says it’s one of the best presents he’s ever had. We also had a small family gathering which he enjoyed, took lovely photos and videos using the drone. But he’s very techy so it suited him well.

You could always get someone else to do an afternoon tea and have it delivered or why not involve your family and ask them each to bring something ? Why should you be lumbered with all the work ?
We have a family barbecue between Christmas and New Year (yes really) as well as one in the summer around the dates that our parents birthdays used to be . Each family has something allocated for them to bring - salads/ bread/ meat/ veggie option/desserts and then whatever needs cooking is done and we all get to share. Works for us!

Why not Adoot an animal at Chester Zoo?

National Trust and several others doing donate a tree. One or however many you prefer in his name might be nice.

My DH has just got these AitTags top. They keep track of your keys, wallet etc

Husband recently received a dozen bottles of wine as a thankyou. He doesn’t drink white wine but I do !

Coolgran65 I do sympathise with your dilemma. I could have written your post myself. It's my husband's 80th birthday in a couple of weeks and naturally I want to do something to mark the occasion, the question is what! There is just nothing that he wants, he always says all he wants is a card, he doesn't like a lot of fuss. I'll order a nice birthday cake for him and get a bottle of champagne, but as far as a gift goes my mind is a blank. He has very few hobbies and interests and over the years we have done most of the personalised gifts and 'experiences', now I've run out of ideas! After reading replies here I'm considering booking afternoon tea or lunch somewhere, even though he's reluctant to mix with other people. It will probably be just the two of us as it's a weekday so AC and GC are unlikely to be able to visit - our eldest has a new baby due on same date so he could be busy! Why do men have to be so difficult to buy for

A family get-together sounds like the thing your DH would like the most.

Could you and your son not plan it together, doing half of the work each? You do the food and take it with you to his place, so he does the preperation there and the washing-up? Or the other way around. Or whatever else works as a fair division of labour.

For a man who loves reading a book is always welcome!

Men are such a problem to buy for! In recent years I have bought my hubby various trips, which he has really enjoyed. A canal trip with afternoon tea, a trip on a local heritage railway etc.
I get the covid thing and the fact that he may not want to do that, but we did the canal trip this year (postponed from the year before) and it all seemed very safe and well organised with screens between the tables and windows open.
Do you have anywhere that does “grazing platters” they come and set up a fantastic table of food which would be lovely for a family get together. You probably wouldn’t need to buy for 10 either as they bring so much!
I’m glad my hubby wanted long handled secateurs for hid birthday……don’t have to worry about that now!!

Magazine subscription on his favourite interest / hobby?

Get him a subscription to Readly. Every magazine you can think of for £7.99 a month including back issues and international too. Here’s a link get.readly.com/

My Husbands Birthday is today, and yes, he has everything, also awkward to buy for he now doesnt drink anything except water! doesnt eat sweets/ chocolate etc. in desperation I bought a voucher in a local bike shop he has said he needs really good trousers for walking, he walks 10,000 steps every morning, he can choose which ever trousers he wants, he seemed pleased with this, although I think it was quite boring.
Good luck with your purchase, I am sure he will be pleased with whatever you choose.Happy Birthday to him.

A subscription for audio books? My husband likes this because he can putter around the house and listen to a book at the same time.

I agree with tanith's suggestions, especially the magazine subscription- thats a lovely idea and he gets a 'surprise' again every month!- i love getting a new mag through the letterbox each month and i once did get one of my daughters one as a gift, she loved it and it gives them a 'reason' to go put their feet up for an hour, maybe with a cuppa, and have a break, (especially if they are usually on the go all the time!) Im sure you know what your OH's interests & hobbies are, and theres a subscription for just about everything these days, often they have price deals too at this time of year, or they include a calendar etc..and yes the takeaway idea is great too, but you would probably have to wait till everyone arrived to order & that could take awhile as not everyone will want the same! And a big order will take a while to prepare for them, so may be a lot longer arriving.?maybe the 'afternoon tea' is better, and the other ladies/or gents in your group can help you prepare it??

Not surprised he hasn’t worn the Skechers!