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What do I get dh for birthday.

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Coolgran65 Thu 07-Oct-21 09:06:36

It’s dh birthday in a few weeks and I’m trying to avoid the shirt/ jumper route. There is absolutely nothing he needs or wants. He doesn’t want to do a hotel overnight because of covid even though I’m sure it’s quite safer. Cinema and diner - he won’t do cinema for the same reason. I thought of day out and dinner but in November the weather could be very uncertain. He likes nice clothes but definitely has more than enough.
I’ve considered out for dinner taking the family but that would be 10 of us and about £250 possibly.
I could do dinner at home instead with birthday cake but it’s like dong a Xmas dinner.
Or maybe afternoon tea with sandwiches/cake for 10.
I know he would appreciate a family get together. Maybe I should do this and hang all work. But I’d still like a gift for him to unwrap so back to what to get.

I sound lazy but honestly I’m not. It’s possible eldest ss may suggest a get together at his (much bigger house) but that would do away with my ‘gift’.
He has nice clothes unworn. Last gift was a pair of Sketchers.
I will get some nice chocolates maybe Hotel Chocolat. He’s not into nice toiletries or aftershave more of an Old Spice man.
The more I think….. it could be a gathering at our house. Actually perhaps get a Chinese or fish n chips delivery for 10. That would make it a little different, less work for me, and cheaper than going out. Hmmm maybe that.
Seems that just writing this out has focussed me.

Any ideas or approvals are most welcome. Thank you.

Jaylou Sat 09-Oct-21 18:37:07

How about a magazine subscription, or if he likes a particular drink, a wine of the month or gin of the month subscription. The present will last a year.

jerseygirl Sat 09-Oct-21 19:14:35

For catering at home i can highly recommend Morrisons. They do a great range of sandwich platters, pies, sausage rolls, salad and a good selection of deserts. I used them for my daughters 40th birthday, celebrated at home because of covid. I added a birthday cake and some cup cakes. It was lovely and a great price too.

Brigidsdaughter Sat 09-Oct-21 20:04:19

lefthanded that's a lovely idea! On my little list, thank you

Brigidsdaughter Sat 09-Oct-21 20:05:26

Binoculars?? It was our best wedding gift many years ago

Caleo Sat 09-Oct-21 21:11:38

A tiny quirky antique something or other that reflects one of his interests? Antique toy car? Golf memorabilia?

A lump of amethyst in its matrix? Fun tie pin if he has a sense of humour?
A book of jokes? Signed photo of his favourite film star?

Oofy Sat 09-Oct-21 22:44:16

You don’t mention if it is a “special” birthday or an “ordinary” one, so am guessing the latter. Recently got my DH a Velvetiser from Hotel Chocolat (you mentioned he likes their chocolate), which I notice are on special offer at the moment. This makes amazing hot chocolate very easily, no washing burnt saucepan! If you are feeling extra generous, you could also get him a subscription to have more of the sachets delivered every so often. Not dirt cheap but cheaper than buying hot chocolate in Starbucks. And DD bought him lovely sheepskin slippers from Celtic and Co which was mentioned earlier

LovelyLady Sun 10-Oct-21 01:05:09

I like the idea of Audio book subscription. Our family have given these.
Netflix subscription.
The Oldie magazine subscription.
Day out on a steam train, we did this and had a wonderful unusual day.
Buy him a dog for company if he’d look after a dog,
New mats for his car.
Have his car valeted.
A door bell with a camera.
Good luck!

Coolgran65 Sun 10-Oct-21 01:37:20

Thank you all so much. So many great ideas. Some I’ve done like the special jigsaws, we do like doing them, others I’m taking on board. Some I know he definitely wouldn’t be up for. But all so helpful.

I will look up our local. Steam train. I’m also checking the up coming shows in our local theatre. He’s not keen on.big events while covid still prevails but I might push him on this.
I have enough to be getting on with here and hope that the ideas given are helpful to others.
Thanks again.

Mmers Sun 10-Oct-21 01:50:05

My husband is also difficult to buy for - I love your idea of ordering takeaway. Easy for everyone and he'll have great memories. That is the BEST gift.

Sheian62 Sun 10-Oct-21 07:42:10

We once did a family gathering with someone presenting my mum and dad, separate occasions with a This is Your Life afternoon/evening with a photo album with funny captions underneath. This was read out in front of family and friends and was very entertaining. Another suggestion if he likes historical houses and gardens, a National Trust subscription. Well worth it.

Madwoman11 Sun 10-Oct-21 09:51:11

Some cafes will deliver an afternoon tea

LuckyFour Sun 10-Oct-21 15:07:00

Would your DH enjoy being a pilot for a couple of hours. You can get a Flight Experience where you sit in the pilot's seat and fly the plane (virtual), but it's apparently exactly like the real thing.

2mason16 Mon 11-Oct-21 07:00:33

Recently bought my DD the new book 'And Away' by Bob Mortimer, he loves his fishing programme on TV, chocs & aftershave. He likes Hairy Bikers & Yorkshire Family, so their books in line for Christmas.