I know what you’re saying Trisher and shelter is one thing, but last time my eldest stepson came to stay he was there for three and a half years! For the first nine years of our relationship we lived on our own for a mere three months in total and they weren’t kids. For the most part we had two adults living with us and often girlfriends too. When the youngest one was in his late teens and early twenties that is perfectly understandable, but two are now in their thirties and the youngest is not far off is thirtieth. We love to see the lads, and are happy to provide short term shelter if they need it, but I think it’s reasonable to want to live on our own now they are all full grown men with their own children. My extended family are ageing and live far and wide, we were rather hoping to see them regularly now we have the space. I love the lads and live that I have a good relationship with them, but we both were rather hoping that they wouldn’t keep bouncing back to us all the time.