What would you think if you received this?

Yes, it was pretty clear to me

Oh yes.
I see it now.
I should have checked.

MercuryQueen What a very good post. particularly the bit about no grandparents babies being born in a pandemic.

MissAdventure

Oh yes.
I see it now.
I should have checked.

Easily done. It happens to the best of us.

We need an "OPs posts only“ button

VioletSky

We need an "OPs posts only“ button

Or colour them.

Mine used to all pop up green

Then I tapped something and it went away

We’ve asked and asked and asked..

VioletSky

MercuryQueen I think you are the first person to say proud and it's exactly the right word

Thank you.

MercuryQueen, spot on !
and welcome on board.
are you an admirer of the great Freddie ?

I’d be fine with it if they want alone time with the baby then that’s their prerogative, as long as everyone has received the same message of course. Chances are that if this is their first child they’ll be phoning asking for help and advice before the 2 weeks is up ?.

welbeck

MercuryQueen, spot on !
and welcome on board.
are you an admirer of the great Freddie ?

Freddie was a musical God, imo.

Sounds fine to me. But I've heard of babies dying because someone with a coldsore, tho not apparent at the time, kissed the babies and them not having the immunity needed to fight off any infections succumbed to them!!
My DD BFF just had a baby about 6 or 7 weeks ago, and asked that people wash their hands and sanitised before touching baby, that's fine to me. Not my baby, not my rules, but because I obeyed I got to have loads of cuddles with the baby!
Imo, it's up to the parents how their baby is introduced to family and friends!!!

I see OPs posts in green and my own in pink.

Ali08

I see OPs posts in green and my own in pink.

Lucky you!!

I miss that feature.

yes, it's the fashion people being captured by boundaries and embarrassingly taking it too far. What's totally lacking is any charm or softness. and it's all sold on making relationships clearer and better! It's just embarrassing and clusy. There are better ways. You know being gracious and charming and making people feel comfortable and valued.. 'manners' in a word. good luck, keep cool and bear with.

It’s a little harsh to be told you need to wait to meet your first grandchild.

But, it is common sense to wash your hands before picking up a newborn and to restrict the kisses, maybe just one on the top of the head

You are lucky to only wait 2 weeks . In pre Covid times I was made to wait over 3 weeks and allowed only a few hours to LOOK at our only grandson . I had travelled from Devon to London to a b&b and took the train to them in Hertfordshire as made to feel unwelcome. And daughter-in -law did not want him touched.Grandson now 7 and we are not allowed to babysit or be alone with him!

It's their precious first baby and we're still in a covid epidemic. I completely understand, though I think a loving phone call to her mum would have been more compassionate

The underlying concern about Covid and immunity is understandable to any sensible person and they are clearly concerned. It's impossible to judge the way in which the 'rules' were conveyed as we don't know anything about the personalities on either side and how the GM would behave with the baby.

Being sensible and honest, there will be plenty of time to see the gc. I wouldn’t worry we have telephones you know and face time.

No problem for me.

I would avoid my DD until I was ready to visit . It could be 2 weeks , it could be 2 months . But I’m not really keen on babies .
As it happens , I was in the labour ward with my only DD when she was having her only DD . When she had to go to theatre for an emergency section I waited outside while her husband went in with her.
Pregnant mums should do what they want around the birth of their child , as long as it’s what SHE wants and not what a controlling DP wants .

Can you remember what it felt like after giving birth? In my day we were in hospital for seven days, therefore having visits limited by hospital visiting times. Now women are in hospital only hours. Cut the girl some slack. I felt overwhelmed by over excited in-laws and think good on her!

I think it’s okay. When I had my first, I was in hospital for 5 weeks and was still poorly enough, when I got home , to warrant a daily home help and visits from my doctor and/ or health visitor. The World and his wife and dog were at our door for days until my doctor put a card in the window telling all visitors to stay away. I hasten to add that my Mum ‘phoned every day but would not have dreamt of visiting until I started to feel better. In this way, I looked forward to our daily chats and was able to ask her advice and she always made me laugh. What a wise woman she was .

I’ve seen this message before, I think it might be one of those shared and copied by new mums to use as standard. I thought it was bad enough when it seemed to be from a daughter to a mum but that fact that it looks like people aren’t even creating their own messages themselves now is beyond belief. As a grandma I would be extremely upset. Yes I understand the need to keep baby safe and everything covid related but then have a considerate conversation about it, if not face to face by phone but not in a message ( penned by someone else). Most people if treated considerately would understand and be only too willing for safety issues. As for the bit about being exhausted, time to bond and don’t be expecting coffee etc - these people need to get over themselves, we’ve all had babies and been exhausted, we weren’t the first and won’t be the last. Sharing the arrival of a new addition to the family is a joyous time for everyone and if you need help or some sensible measures around safety ask and you shall receive, no need to be pompous about it. Sorry but this really got my goat, so yes I would be upset and deeply offended.