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Beckett Tue 02-Nov-21 10:09:15

A close friend lives alone and has no family so in the past she has spent Christmas with me. Obviously last year this wasn't possible and she constantly told me how lonely it was for her. She is now expecting to stay with me this year but she is an adamant anti-vaxxer, she believes the stories about the vaccine changing your DNA and that it contains a tracking chip!

Whilst I respect her decision not to be vaccinated, I have had all three jabs and I have told her I don't want anyone staying with me who hasn't been vaccinated. Her argument is that as I have been vaccinated it will be OK.

She now keeps telling me how lonely it is being on her own, how she is dreading Christmas and that this will probably be her last one. She is making me feel incredibly guilty for not inviting her to stay but as I am in my 70s with underlying health problems I feel I have to protect myself.

Any advice as to how I can get it through to her that I can't have her to stay.

DiscoDancer1975 Wed 03-Nov-21 15:07:43

You don’t need to have advice. There’s no way you should accommodate her. My friend is very sick with covid at the moment. She is double jabbed, and was due to have her booster next week. Without those vaccines, I think she would very likely have died.

Like you, we have to respect people’s wishes, but in your home......no.

grandtanteJE65 Wed 03-Nov-21 15:21:26

Tell her straight out that you are entitled to your opinion, and she to hers.

This being so, she must respect your right to say that no-one who has not been fully vaccinated witll be allowed into your house at any time.

I realise it is unpleasant, but if you give in over Christmas you will worry if she sneezes or coughs and once you have had her to stay at Christmas you can't very well turn her away at any other time she wants to come.

If she did come, what would you do or say if someone who is vaccinated came by? Let them in without telling them that your other guest is not vaccinated, or feel forced to say, as I would feel, "You're welcome, but Annie here isn't vaccinated" ?

Right now in Denmark we have an increase in cases of covid19, mainly amongst the unvaccinated, but they can spread the infection to people who have been vaccinated.

By all accounts, covid 19 is not a minor or pleasant ailment, even if you are vaccinated against it before contracting it.

So stick to your guns.

Shandy57 Wed 03-Nov-21 15:39:17

What a shame there are so many people brain washed by this tripe. My friend's daughter also repeated the 'chip' information, but luckily now has had the vaccination.

I'm sorry you will be alone because your friend isn't vaccinated, but I wouldn't entertain her and risk my own health.

Madgran77 Wed 03-Nov-21 15:57:56

Your plan is spot on ..." I have made my decision and I won't change my mind. It is your decision not to have the vaccine, I respect your right to make your decision. Please respect mine."