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Is it tacky to send "relation" cards?

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Unigran4 Sun 07-Nov-21 22:03:52

I remember my Mum being quite disgusted with the introduction of birthday/Christmas cards to "son", "daughter", "cousin" "aunt" etc saying they were "common".

I have also seen a comment from another Gransnetter saying such cards are "tacky".

Thoughts please.

Calendargirl Sun 07-Nov-21 22:06:31

I don’t think they are tacky. Often send a daughter, son, sister one.

MissAdventure Sun 07-Nov-21 22:09:23

Who cares if others think it is tacky?
If the words move you to send it, then it is the exact right card for the occasion.

nanaK54 Sun 07-Nov-21 22:09:56

Why are they they tacky? I really don't understand. I think that it shows an effort, I will always look for 'relation' cards for my sons, my daughters in law, grandchildren and for my brother and sister.

BigBertha1 Sun 07-Nov-21 22:11:07

I always send these. I think it shows a little more care and thought.

sodapop Sun 07-Nov-21 22:15:47

If it gives you and the recipient pleasure Unigran then it's not tacky. People do like to set themselves up as the arbiters of good taste.

Nell8 Sun 07-Nov-21 22:21:55

A lot depends on the wording inside. It has to suit the nature of the relationship. Some can be too cheesy or florid for my taste. However I still cherish the big badge saying "World's best Mum" which was pinned on one I received.smile

Smileless2012 Sun 07-Nov-21 22:22:12

You took the words out of my mouth sodapopsmile

ginny Sun 07-Nov-21 22:22:34

Then I must be tacky.

Bellanonna Sun 07-Nov-21 22:22:39

I always receive Mum cards. I always send grandson/daughter cards. I often send daughter cards.

PollyTickle Sun 07-Nov-21 22:23:43

One persons tacky is another persons joy. Do what pleases you and your loved ones.

Calistemon Sun 07-Nov-21 22:24:31

Probably but I send them!
tchgrin

Reminder to self, must buy some this week.

BlueBelle Sun 07-Nov-21 22:27:06

No !!! Why ?

Chewbacca Sun 07-Nov-21 22:40:51

Do you honestly care what a random stranger on the internet thinks about your choice of greeting cards? They don't know you. Or the recipient of the card. So their opinions really don't matter do they?

welbeck Mon 08-Nov-21 00:06:50

some people just sound snobbish; big themselves up by looking down on others.
we don't have to do that, secure in our own sense of self.
toodle pip.

MissAdventure Mon 08-Nov-21 00:20:09

I cherish the cards I have from my daughter which say "Mum" on them.
I'm never going to be called that again.
So, eff what others think and send a big, glorious card celebrating your relatives.

Chewbacca Mon 08-Nov-21 00:28:14

flowers MissAdventure well said.

DillytheGardener Mon 08-Nov-21 00:34:47

I must be tacky too, I always do ‘relations’ cards for Christmas and birthdays ??‍♀️

Zoejory Mon 08-Nov-21 00:44:57

Never heard this before. Not sure how/why anyone would think they were tacky

Did they mean the Moonpipg type cards that you can personalise with name?

But as others have said it really doesn't matter what anyone thinks. You buy whatever you like!

LovelyCuppa Mon 08-Nov-21 06:34:12

I don't like them but my DH's side of the family love them.

For me it's not if they're tacky or not, it's that they're not my words, so they feel a bit lazy. I much prefer the cards I have from my husband where he wrote his own message, to the ones I've received which have a wall of generic verse on the front.

Mollygo Mon 08-Nov-21 07:25:29

If you like them and the recipients like them, how can they be tacky. Criticising other people’s taste-now that’s tacky!

I do have to check the verse inside to make sure it’s appropriate, but that’s half the fun of choosing.
I like Moonpig where I can personalise cards too.

Allsorts Mon 08-Nov-21 07:26:46

I send them, didn’t realise they were tacky, but like to receive them too.

notgran Mon 08-Nov-21 07:36:44

Not only do I send them, I also include a "Christmas Letter". I know these letters are despised by many folk (hopefully not too many of these are recipients of mine) but I enjoy composing them. About 5 years ago I decided not to send them as the kids had moved into their own homes and there wasn't as much "news" as usual. I was gobsmacked the number of relations who asked my sister (being diplomatic) or my in-laws (ditto) was everything ok as they missed my Christmas Letter. I reinstated it and since then people have mentioned on the Christmas cards "Looking forward to your letter" type comments. Both named cards and Christmas Letters are tacky and I am happy to belong to that Club grin

Ladyleftfieldlover Mon 08-Nov-21 07:44:09

My mum used to send relation cards but I don’t. We are all different. I like cards without any wording at all so I can write my own.

Ladyleftfieldlover Mon 08-Nov-21 07:44:42

Oh and I do Christmas letters too!