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Is it tacky to send "relation" cards?

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Unigran4 Sun 07-Nov-21 22:03:52

I remember my Mum being quite disgusted with the introduction of birthday/Christmas cards to "son", "daughter", "cousin" "aunt" etc saying they were "common".

I have also seen a comment from another Gransnetter saying such cards are "tacky".

Thoughts please.

Juicylucy Tue 09-Nov-21 18:13:39

Trust me, i work in the greeting card industry and relative cards are always best sellers so I’d say no they are not tacky.

labazsisslowlygoingmad Tue 09-Nov-21 19:14:15

Always makes me feel special and valued

TillyTrotter Tue 09-Nov-21 19:23:23

Ha, see what you mean Callistemon. ?
I have a friend who is absolutely gets that card and we have been Best’ies for 45 years.

Unigran4 Tue 09-Nov-21 19:41:39

Gabrielle56 You're right it is an old fashioned phrase ("common") but my Mum would have been 100 last week, how old does she need to be, to be old fashioned? So not odd at all.

M0nica Tue 09-Nov-21 19:49:00

As far as I am concerned it is the design on the card and the words that count. If, in some cases that means there is a relationship given on it as well, then so be it.

Amalegra Tue 09-Nov-21 20:48:40

I think relation cards show thought as one knows the sender has chosen with care. I treasure them, even the tacky ones my son so gleefully presents me with!

HillyN Tue 09-Nov-21 21:55:02

I always try to choose appropriate 'relation' cards if I can. That way there is much less chance of sending the same card as someone else. Not all of these cards have soppy words but I love it when my husband, daughters and sister send me a meaningful sentiment. One (wo)man's tacky is another (wo)man's treasure!

Sago Tue 09-Nov-21 22:51:33

Perhaps they will bring out pronoun cards.
“To they on their special day”

Mollygo Tue 09-Nov-21 22:58:02

Sago

Perhaps they will bring out pronoun cards.
“To they on their special day”

Who knows.

Saetana Tue 09-Nov-21 23:10:04

Of course its not tacky - its shows thoughtfulness in my opinion. We only send this type of card to parents and siblings - more distant relations just get a normal nice Merry Christmas card from us. I spend time every year picking out the special cards for our parents, my sister and my husband's brother. Buying Christmas cards generally - I do tend to prefer "merry" or "happy" Christmas rather than anything religious, or the awful Americanised "happy holidays". Our family is a mixture of those with religous beliefs and those without so I try to steer a middle course.

Riggie Tue 09-Nov-21 23:55:49

I dont send them because personally I don't like them. I couldn't really tell you why I don't, but I'd rather out a personal message in a general card.
I wouldn't say they are tacky unless you are in the realms of one I saw which was "my Dad's girlfriend"!! Once I spotted that I realised there was a whole range of similar themed ines!!

AmberSpyglass Wed 10-Nov-21 09:31:14

There are a few lovely ones for people using new pronouns!

Scones Wed 10-Nov-21 09:36:28

I saw a card recently that had picture of a group of happy ladies and the message on the front said 'I love our little gang'. I sent one to everyone in our little group of friends and people said how much they loved it and how it summed up how they feel. A loving message on a card can make people feel very special I think....I love it when someone sends me a card with my 'family or friendship job title' on.

There is a horrible type of pain when the opportunity to send a card to 'Mum', 'Dad' or 'Best Friend' ends. Send 'em while you can I think.

SachaMac Wed 10-Nov-21 09:37:50

I quite like them, like others I have saved cards that I have been sent over the years, often hand made ones from the children. I am rather sentimental though and still have a card my grandparents sent me in the late 70’s not personalised but lovely all the same.
Its obviously more expensive sending personalised cards but if that’s what you like to do go ahead, I can’t really see what’s tacky about it!

Mollygo Wed 10-Nov-21 10:11:35

Scones you are so right about sending them whilst you can. DH and I missed being able to send Mum and Dad cards and I worried that Mum would be upset just to get a Mum card, but she likes them.

Caleo Wed 10-Nov-21 10:47:10

MissAdventure wrote:

"I cherish the cards I have from my daughter which say "Mum" on them.
I'm never going to be called that again."

Thanks for posting that Miss A. I love it!

annodomini Wed 10-Nov-21 11:02:33

My sons are very clever at finding just the right cards for me. Sometimes it might be a 'mum' card sometimes a funny one, but always appropriate and always affectionate. I rest my case.

M0nica Wed 10-Nov-21 19:47:55

I send them to my grandchildren - usually - but probably won't this year because all the cards with grand daughter or grandson on I have seen this year were so enormous in size, and also cloyingly sentimental

Audi10 Wed 10-Nov-21 19:58:01

How weird saying they are tacky! A son is a son, daughter is a daughter etc etc, I cannot stand all this snobbery,! It doesn’t make sense to me, yes, I send them and yes I receive them too, and god for it I actually receive and send friend ones too ????

Audi10 Wed 10-Nov-21 19:59:18

God forbid

Ali08 Thu 11-Nov-21 09:35:12

Nell8

A lot depends on the wording inside. It has to suit the nature of the relationship. Some can be too cheesy or florid for my taste. However I still cherish the big badge saying "World's best Mum" which was pinned on one I received.smile

Nell8
You took the words out of my hands!

It's personal choice, I think. Like my mum, being a Geordie lass, hated having cards with mum on but could we get any nice mam cards back then? Of course not. So we drew over the u to make it an a.
I've been down here too long to get used to being called mam, and much prefer mum.
I love grandmother cards, and grandma cards because I am grandma, while all the others are nanny. ?
Each to their own!