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Is it tacky to send "relation" cards?

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Unigran4 Sun 07-Nov-21 22:03:52

I remember my Mum being quite disgusted with the introduction of birthday/Christmas cards to "son", "daughter", "cousin" "aunt" etc saying they were "common".

I have also seen a comment from another Gransnetter saying such cards are "tacky".

Thoughts please.

Hil1910 Tue 09-Nov-21 11:15:46

I always send a relation card to my nearest and dearest but always leave a personalised greetings note which I write after the big standard verse inside.

Joesoap Tue 09-Nov-21 11:18:15

I dont think they are tacky,I send them to my family at Birthdays and at Christmas too, it shows you make an effort.

Pepper59 Tue 09-Nov-21 11:31:26

It's a card.

Lizzie44 Tue 09-Nov-21 11:37:45

I don't regard these cards as tacky. They are not something I or my family choose but that's probably because we are quite a "buttoned up" family in terms of showing our feelings. Maybe I should send a "dear daughter" or "wonderful grandson" card just to see their reaction...

It's personal choice for personal expression of feelings. Ignore the self-styled arbiters of taste.

lemsip Tue 09-Nov-21 11:43:48

The OP is only asking 'what you think'......no need to take umbridge if you don't think so. at least it's a thread starter, not a lot else going on.

Yammy Tue 09-Nov-21 11:48:20

I send them and have a box full from when the GC were little wither spidery writing. One of my DD always sent me postcards from places she had visited when she lived abroad. So I must be double tacky I send and keep the ones I receive.

Alioop Tue 09-Nov-21 12:00:35

I send them as I think they are that little bit special with some lovely verses inside. I would never of thought they were tacky.

pinkym Tue 09-Nov-21 12:02:30

Personally when I receive a card with cousin, friend, sister etc. it makes me feel special to the sender because they have acknowledged our relationship to each other. I love to look at my birthday cards and count the different relationships I have in my little world. Do I send them to the special people in my life? Of course I do! It wouldn't feel right to send DSs & DILs and grandchildren generic cards, they're special to me. That's me, everyone should do what pleases them, who's to sit and judge what is right or wrong, tacky or not?? And who cares about their judgments anyway?

knspol Tue 09-Nov-21 12:03:06

A card is a card, I'm just happy to be remembered and if there's a little note inside from the people I rarely see then so much the better.

Unigran4 Tue 09-Nov-21 12:08:14

lemsip

The OP is only asking 'what you think'......no need to take umbridge if you don't think so. at least it's a thread starter, not a lot else going on.

Thank you lemsip

I am not a confident person, and my confidence was knocked after a shopping trip for Christmas cards with a friend who saw what I was buying and said (not unkindly) that she had never thought of buying relation cards. No more was said, and there was no recrimination in her voice, but it reminded me of my Mum's take on it and what I had read on GN.

Thank you all so much for your comments - confidence restored! thanks

MissAdventure Tue 09-Nov-21 12:10:13

Oh I do hope you're not offended, Unigran flowers

Theoddbird Tue 09-Nov-21 12:24:14

I love receiving a card with Mum on...I have never thought it tacky. I don't understand how anyone can...

DanniRae Tue 09-Nov-21 12:36:32

When I was young my family never sent cards with 'daughter' 'son' etc on them. Then I met Mr R and his family were totally into sending 'family' cards.......I thought they were lovely and have sent them ever since smile
I don't do a Christmas Letter but write a message on the left hand side of the card to people I need to update on my year. Along the lines of "Hope you all well and happy. We have a new granddaughter - born in July! So all good with us!"
I love sending and receiving cards and have no time for Christmas texts - electronic cards etc!

Larsonsmum Tue 09-Nov-21 12:37:30

Oh me, I don't think they are tacky at all, but each to their own.

Pippa22 Tue 09-Nov-21 12:51:49

I don’t think Moonpig ones would be deemed tacky , more the cheap card shop ones, particularly the oversized ones with Son, Daughter etc. on with a cuddly cat, rabbit or pig smiling on he front and with very gushing words !

AmberSpyglass Tue 09-Nov-21 12:58:28

I loathe them in general, although I always like to buy anniversary etc ones that say ‘wife’ because gay marriage was such a fight to achieve that I feel it’s the least I deserve.

Libman Tue 09-Nov-21 13:00:00

I wish I could send a personalised card to my mum and dad….

inishowen Tue 09-Nov-21 13:05:38

It shows you've taken the trouble to choose a card, rather than a generic card. Not tacky.

Hobbs1 Tue 09-Nov-21 13:08:07

I’m definitely tacky. I send relation cards to all my family and my husbands family members, parents, sisters and BILs, daughters, son, grandchildren, nieces, nephews. Love looking for “ special” cards.

LesLee7 Tue 09-Nov-21 13:10:31

I don't find them tacky and occasionally buy Friend Ones - as sadly very few family left now. I must admit though I hate the standard letter to everyone to say what the family have been up to. I do write to certain people at Christmas that I don't see through the year but they are always personal to them

Harris27 Tue 09-Nov-21 13:20:59

I’ve always sent them love the sentiment.

Shawlands2000 Tue 09-Nov-21 13:22:48

My oldest daughter died four years ago and I cherish the last "To Mum" Christmas card she sent. She may be gone, but her card takes pride of place. ❤

MissAdventure Tue 09-Nov-21 14:01:23

I'm surprised that gushy words are tacky, considering how many people gush about their quite ordinary families in the forums.
The beautiful grandchildren, who spend their time selflessly saving the environment, the wonderful daughters, who are so caring etc etc.
Is that tacky?

Ilovecheese Tue 09-Nov-21 14:04:07

I love them, especially "baby's first Christmas " ones.

Wheniwasyourage Tue 09-Nov-21 14:05:25

Shawlands2000 flowers