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Did you ever wish you could wear trousers to school instead of skirts?

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OnwardandUpward Fri 19-Nov-21 08:39:00

I did.
Just read this story about Keira Bell again and it's struck me how it was her Mum who asked her if she wanted to be a boy because she wanted to wear trousers to school, not skirts. www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-10060533/Detransitioned-activist-takes-war-puberty-blockers-Supreme-Court.html

Honestly, it makes me sad for all she's gone through. As someone who constantly wished they could wear trousers to school, I feel for her (because if the seed was planted in my mind at a tender age perhaps I'd have thought it was the answer, too?) I often used to say I wanted to be a boy because I thought boys and men had it easier, but I've never wanted to actually change gender and in any case it would have been nonsensed by my Mother. Kids today have a much harder job knowing who they are because we never had those choices to get sidetracked by.

Grandmabatty Fri 19-Nov-21 08:43:31

I was a tomboy when I was about ten or eleven. In fact, when I started secondary school the dinner ladies thought I was a boy. I never wanted to actually be a boy though. I feel very sorry for anyone who is confused or tortured by their body

Septimia Fri 19-Nov-21 09:13:25

Growing up in the 50s and 60s I never even contemplated wearing trousers for school. Women and girls tended to wear them only for outdoorsy activities so, even though I was a tomboy, I mostly wore dresses and skirts except when on camping holidays with family or Guides.

Now I hardly ever wear a skirt or dress, it's generally trousers for me!

GagaJo Fri 19-Nov-21 09:17:05

I didn't care what I wore. I just hated going full-stop and loathed anything that smacked of uniform as a result.

ElaineI Fri 19-Nov-21 09:19:18

No never. In the winter girls could wear thick tights under their skirts and in my primary school boys had to wear shorts till P7. In the winter it usually snowed a lot. Climate has changed a lot nowadays though. My own daughters wore skirts at primary as it was the norm though boys could wear long trousers. I can't remember what they wore to high school. It wasn't such a big thing in those days. DD2 was a bit unconventional and had a few friends who were bisexual, and Goths as well but she says lots of friends would say that to get attention but weren't actually bisexual. Self harming was also an issue at that time and teenagers appeared to copy each other.

eazybee Fri 19-Nov-21 09:21:20

Never thought about wearing trousers for school; too busy campaigning to be allowed to wear black tights for warmth as we cycled to school. Permission was not granted.

Scones Fri 19-Nov-21 09:24:51

We were allowed to wear trousers at our comprehensive school on a big council estate. Frankly I think they'd have been ok for us to attend in our pyjamas so long as we actually turned up.

Trousers were allowed but we couldn't do woodwork and the boys couldn't do home economics. Ridiculous, unfounded rules based entirely on gender then and now.

BlueBelle Fri 19-Nov-21 10:15:34

Never thought about it because no one did
Trousers for girls was never part of the school uniform in 50 s 60 s etc so it never entered my head
In fact I don’t think I wore trousers much in my teens either mini skirts and mini dresses I do remember having some pedal pushers when I was about 16 otherwise trousers were ‘in’ that much

glammanana Fri 19-Nov-21 10:27:26

I never wore trousers to school in fact the shorter my skirt the better much to my mothers horror we used to turn the waistband over at the top during the winter we had really cold knee's & thighs but put up with it all in the cause of the fashion of the 60's.

Germanshepherdsmum Fri 19-Nov-21 10:28:50

It never occurred to me in the 50s and 60s. My grammar school was single sex with very strict uniform rules anyway. If anything I wished I could wear boots in the winter (not allowed unless x inches of snow).

Germanshepherdsmum Fri 19-Nov-21 10:30:02

We did the same glammanana once out of sight of school!?

Blossoming Fri 19-Nov-21 10:31:18

I wore trousers and my brother’s outgrown jeans outside of school all the time, but it wouldn’t have occurred to me to wear them to school. School uniform wasn’t ‘my’ clothing. I was a proper tomboy as I wanted to be in on whatever my brothers did, but I didn’t want to be a boy.

Calistemon Fri 19-Nov-21 10:39:40

One of my DD campaigned for girls to be allowed to wear trousers to school, at least in the Sixth form. She and her friends probably made themselves unpopular with the headmaster, but they won.
Their argument was that their education wasn't compulsory after 16, they could have gone to Sixth form college and worn what they wanted. He couldn't argue with that.

I really dislike wearing skirts or dresses.
When I was at school we still had to wear Norah Batty stockings, tights hadn't been invented.

annodomini Fri 19-Nov-21 10:45:32

In my day, girls very rarely wore trousers, and certainly not to school. Both DGDs had the option to wear either. The elder girl wore trousers and the younger a skirt, although she used to cycle to school. It was sensible to have the option. In the local high school, the uniform for girls is skirts which, once outside the school gate, become little more than pelmets. I wonder what they would choose if given the option.

Teacheranne Fri 19-Nov-21 10:53:59

I had no need to wear trousers even when freezing cold. Even in 1970, my school was so old fashioned that we had to wear tunics which were several inches below our knees. There was no way of making them any shorter by rolling over the waistband! Tights were not permitted either, just pristine white socks. My gaberdine coat was equally as long!

annodomini Fri 19-Nov-21 10:54:17

Just noticed that I said, 'in my day'. I thought you had to be very very elderly to say that! Oh dear!

Shinamae Fri 19-Nov-21 10:55:33

BlueBelle

Never thought about it because no one did
Trousers for girls was never part of the school uniform in 50 s 60 s etc so it never entered my head
In fact I don’t think I wore trousers much in my teens either mini skirts and mini dresses I do remember having some pedal pushers when I was about 16 otherwise trousers were ‘in’ that much

Exactly this!(but unfortunately not the pedal pushers)…

Farmor15 Fri 19-Nov-21 10:58:57

Interesting how times change - when I was going to school in 60s, strict uniform, no trousers. When mine were in secondary school, they had a choice of skirt or trousers, and but all wore trousers, except for occasions like school concert. Now I see the girls from that school wearing skirts mostly - quite short though!

Given the choice when I was in school, I would have worn trousers.

silverlining48 Fri 19-Nov-21 11:01:25

There wasn’t a choice in my days. All girls school all wore skirts.

Casdon Fri 19-Nov-21 11:07:06

I did wear trousers to school when I was in 6th form, we had to wear uniform but trousers were one of the options. This was in 1970s, so with hindsight I guess my school was liberal.

Oldnproud Fri 19-Nov-21 11:07:14

Trousers started being allowed in my secondary school soon after I started there (early '70s)

I seem to remember that they had to be ordered through the school. That was probably because such girls' trousers (smart black) were not available in shops at that time, whereas the rest of our fairly casual uniform could be bought anywhere and didn't have to be one particular style. Colour was more important, with each school year having a different colour combination that started in the first year with all grey, progressing through red to all black in the last year.

I wouldn't have dreamed of wearing trousers at school because I had heavy periods and was too afraid of a visible leak happening between lessons. Easier to avoid or hide in a skirt!

silverlining48 Fri 19-Nov-21 11:11:52

Slightly off subject but from today schools cannot force parents to buy uniform from a particular shop. All to do with high cost of uniforms. Interesting to see how that works out.

moggiek Fri 19-Nov-21 11:14:36

I don’t remember even contemplating wearing trousers to school - I had Gun Metal tights with knee high white socks over the top to show off ?

greenlady102 Fri 19-Nov-21 11:15:34

Septimia

Growing up in the 50s and 60s I never even contemplated wearing trousers for school. Women and girls tended to wear them only for outdoorsy activities so, even though I was a tomboy, I mostly wore dresses and skirts except when on camping holidays with family or Guides.

Now I hardly ever wear a skirt or dress, it's generally trousers for me!

I too grew up in the 50/s 60's and wore trousers whenever I could. They weren't permitted at school and for "smart" occasions, skirts were still seen as the right thing. I am cis female but have never worn makeup or wanted to dress "girly"

TerriBull Fri 19-Nov-21 11:21:21

It didn't occur to me, although I would have wanted them to be bell bottomed. Fat chance of that my convent school was very hoity toity about school uniform and the implications for the school if pupils were seen out and about without white gloves and straw boaters in the summer hmm so trousers as part of the school uniform would I imagine have them reaching for the smelling salts!

I think it's a very sensible option for girls today, especially when I read about what young women have to put up with, I'm thinking of up skirting shock