Single again - struggling

I know grannydarkhair. She always posts on the same theme using different names. Maybe she does post on other threads using yet more names or she could always start a thread about something real for a change. It’s not necessary to lie to people to get attention.

I have noticed quite a few similar posts in the past, and you are right GSM there is an obvious pattern if you have been on GN for a long time.
I left a few months ago, and this was one of the reasons, and have only recently returned and am mainly lurking nowadays. However I feel GN has on balance more that is positive than negative to recommend it. For example the recent wonderful support shown to soop.

Germanshepherdsmum I really struggle to understand why someone does this. Unless she is a writer/columnist and is looking for material? I just keep thinking “sad”.

Even if the OP is a faker, I've enjoyed reading the Happy Singleton posts!

I'm happily single myself. Adult DC, and GC. I don't need a man to clutter up my life. I do feel lonely at times, but not enough to give yet another disappointing man headspace.

I agree Farzanah, I think the vast majority of posts are genuine and there’s lots of support and friendship to be found in GN. For some it’s a lifeline.
grannydarkhair I think it’s someone wanting attention because her usual pattern on both GN and MN is to reply to posts on her threads almost like having a conversation and playing a drama out. Which is sad but the way to interact successfully with others is surely to be yourself and take an interest in what others are saying. I don’t generally use the word ‘narcissist’ but I think that, and very probably loneliness, is the problem here.

Why can’t HQ banish her/him ? They must recognise her email address and her requests for new names. They’ve got rid of people I feel should have been kept on GN, so why keep this fraud. ?

None of what I’m posting is lies. My life has taken a dramatic turn and I’m desperate for advice. It’s so horrible to be called a fraud; I’m quite simply someone who doesn’t trust her own judgement and looks elsewhere for advice. Some of you have been incredibly kind; the rest are welcome to do what they wish to expunge me.

NanKate what a very unkind person you seem to be. Please get a life and stop being so very unpleasant when there’s no grounds to be.

So, SinglePringle, you deny posting about your dramatic love life on GN under the names of Lucy Snowe and Maggie Tulliver and also posting on MN calling your boyfriend a 'fu*king *wat' when he took your house keys? If so that's an incredible coincidence.

Didn’t deny anything. Anyway amazed that you have nothing better to do than police forums.

SinglePringle, I've found myself 'struggling' far more in relationships than when single. Maybe you view being part of a couple as the ideal state.

Single is just different - with a whole host of compensations. There's freedom to be your true self, choose your own ways, do your own thing - all without having to compromise or consider another's wellbeing. I just love it!

(Now that I've read the other replies - I'm just annoyed that I bothered.)

Dont be Hetty58 who really knows the truth about any poster?
Besides, your advice might be useful to a reader who doesnt comment.

SinglePringle, I and most of us have much better things to do than give sympathy and advice on a made-up thread. Perhaps your latest thread is genuine but I’m afraid you’re like the boy who cried wolf and you’ve lost your cred. Why do you keep posting these romantic scenarios here and on MN (where you lowered your age) under different names? There are occasional threads which are difficult to believe but you set out to draw people into fictitious scenarios and prey on their good nature and willingness to help and advise someone with problems. That’s very unkind. There are plenty of people on here with real problems who use their real usernames and over time we come to know and trust each other. I’m afraid you haven’t shown yourself to be worthy of trust which is a shame if you like many of us need the companionship GN gives.

If it's true, you sound incredibly insecure and risk yourself being vulnerable, like with the chap and the stolen keys. Could you seek counselling for yourself so you become a bit stronger? rather than basing your happiness of that from a man?

Learn to value yourself again.
I have been single since my divorce in my early 30s - apart from a few short term relationships that really went nowhere.
You can suit yourself in choosing what you want to do or where you want to go , without having to ask anyone else's permission.
I have been on holiday on my own and to concerts and shows on my own - mainly because each time , none of my friends or family wanted to come with me or were interested !
Yes it may be lovely, walking along, holding hands once again but to me, that is more a feather in your cap as to how other people will be seeing you, than how you actually feel about the relationship!
Over the festive period, sit down and make plans for things you would like to do for the next year or so - if you have time to spare, volunteer for something and concentrate on making friends rather than romantic relations as one my lead to the other, if you wish.

I have just read some of the other comments and quite frankly, SinglePringle, if this is a fake post for whatever reason or that you are intending to use it for an article, you are truly taking the mick out of the kindness that is shown by the comments of some of the other members that have taken your post as genuine (myself included)
Your rather sarcastic comment on one of your posts about what wonderful friends we would all make leads me to agree with other members and suggest you find something else to do with your time, rather than take the p out of some that have genuine problems!

Ive been on my own for more than 20 years. No way way would i have a relationship now. I can get up when i like, no sweaty man in bed. Go shopping without a man bumbling around. No one to consider when planning meals. Come and go as i like. The list is endless. My late husband was lovely but we met in our 20s and grew up together. Ive had boyfriends, some who decieved me and were just after one thing. Many single men look for a woman living alone just to get a cosy home and be looked after. No way for me

Just a word of caution to anyone looking for love via internet dating. Someone I know, pleasant enough man, was recently divorced. he is 74. After failing to meet anyone through his walking group or exercise classes he joined a dating site for older people and within a week he had 5 very keen ladies - mostly late 60's or early 70's wanting to meet him. He was very keen on one of them but she lived too far away and saw each of the others a fair few times, trying to make a decision but not telling them about each other. From what he said at least 2 of the others wanted a relationship and when he decided they were no;t "the one" he just ghosted them, which is so cruel, he said that by the time he had worked out what to say it was too late. I gather men of an advanced age always get a lot of interest, so be careful not to get your heart broken.

I’m insecure and feel very lost. I’m sorry if I’ve offended anyone but not one bit of what I’ve said is made up/lies. I’m very grateful for a lot of the advice but there is no need for certain posters to be so vitriolic. Anyway I’ve learnt my lesson and will stay away.

crikey

Is there no way that GN can check out that this is the same person and block them. They must have some unique reference somewhere through signing up.

When I first read it also I thought it was key lady again.

SinglePringle, I’m not sure I can believe everything is true because just a few days ago you were posting about the man spending Christmas Day with some striking young woman. It would help people to understand you if you would say why you used all the different names, because being reasonably intelligent people we can see the continuing thread and some are on MN too. I don’t do MN because frankly I feel I’m too old at 70 (I think you said you’re 67?) and it’s all a bit too cut and thrust for me. I remember you posted a photo and if that was you you’re a very attractive woman. A lot of us are insecure and feel lost more often than we might say. Everyone is welcome but please just be yourself, here and IRL. Contribute to the other threads, join in the games, start threads about items in the news. If you prefer you can do that with a new name and you will find companionship and where necessary help.
In answer to your question, if I were single I would prefer to stay that way. I think a lot of older men are either trying to get you into bed or looking for a housekeeper/cook/nurse and whatever bad habits they’ve fallen into - bound to have some - they’re too old to change!

Sorry, didn't see NanKate's post saying exactly what I said

Hi, I've been on my own for about 12 years and I'm 66. I still work part-time but I'm retiring in June. I honestly don't think I could cope living with someone again. I have my campervan and can go off whenever I like and I have 3 daughters to visit and a few good friends. It would be nice to go for a meal or a movie with someone but I value my independence too much to lose it now. You will feel better over time its still early days.