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Nana56 Tue 28-Dec-21 13:22:38

Dwp have lost my application and marriage certificate to apply for my state pension.
This is so annoying but my main concern is my reaction to it.
I feel so stressed and shaky. Can't think if anything else. I keep discussing it with my poor husband.
I'm now taking ciralopram to help. This is not a normal reaction.
I'm phoning again tomorrow to check I've another form coming in the post.
I know I've nothing to moan about and in the grand scheme it's nothing, just frustrating.
Thank you for reading xx

BlueBelle Tue 28-Dec-21 13:36:33

Your Doctor has given you anti depressants because you lost something in the post? you must have more than that going on surely, because this definitely isn’t a normal reaction
Yes it’s blooming annoying but not something to get so upset about Were you feeling depressed before and this has kicked it all over the edge
You can easily get another certificate, if the letter was signed for or insured you can charge the Royal Mail for the price of any certificates, if it wasn’t make sure it is with the next one you send

Please don’t let this seem so major, as you know it’s an annoyance only and will soon be solved and as you say it’s not a normal reaction at all

EllanVannin Tue 28-Dec-21 13:42:39

As BlueBelle pointed out, it would seem like there were other issues going on for something so trivial to cause such stress. The " last straw" would describe something like this if other matters had been in the background.
Annoying as this is, it wouldn't create such a reaction as you've described.

EllanVannin Tue 28-Dec-21 13:46:54

It's just known as an annoyance. Stress is a different kettle of fish altogether. I'm sure that those who have real stress will agree.

Nana56 Tue 28-Dec-21 14:09:42

Lots of other issues this year. Last straw

Calistemon Tue 28-Dec-21 14:32:06

Nana56

Lots of other issues this year. Last straw

It's not just the application though, is it - it's your marriage certificate which is precious. OK, you can get another one. My SIL's marriage certificate was lost by my DB's firm when she applied for her widow's pension and it was the final straw, very upsetting. My DD's was lost by the NZ authorities as well as her birth certificate.

I hope I didn't make you feel worse nanna56 and hope you feel better soon.

Yes, it's easy enough to apply for a replacement certificate if they can't find it but I hope they do.

B9exchange Tue 28-Dec-21 15:43:31

I can understand your distress at your marriage certificate going missing. You would have signed that on your wedding day with your husband, and it would probably have had your parents signatures on it too. That is irreplaceable. I know how distraught I was when a solicitor returned our marriage certificate sliced in two, and wondered if it was an omen!

But you have obviously had a terrible year, and I am glad that you are getting help, Citalopram pulled my youngest son out of his breakdown, and I pray it will help you too. If it does eventually turn up, that will be a glimmer of hope for you, and perhaps a turning point.

Calistemon Tue 28-Dec-21 15:54:52

OK, you can get another one.
Yes, you can but it's not the original, as B9exchange said, signed by you all - I do hope they find it.
They found DD's

FarNorth Tue 28-Dec-21 15:57:30

Take what help you can get Nana56.
A last straw doesn't do any harm on its own, it adds to the harm done by all the other 'straws' you've had before it. flowers

allsortsofbags Tue 28-Dec-21 16:01:57

So sad to hear about the loss of your documents being "the last straw".

However, you took care of yourself by getting help from your Dr. Not an easy thing to do at any time and it's specially tough when your not feeling your best self so give yourself a well done for that.

And you said you will be calling DWP again so another brave and difficult thing to do when you're not feeling great.

Despite how stressed you are feeling you are managing to deal with situations many people (me included) find stressful.

May be you can take a bit of time to connect to how well you are dealing with things while you are feeling very stressed.

You must be a very strong and resilient person and I hope you find a way through all the difficulties you are dealing with such that you get to a place of being less stressed.

Wishing you the best possible outcome with the DWP.