Please be patient as I have never been in a chat room before but I am so upset and hurt that I have been crying for days (this morning I woke up at 3 crying) and I need help dealing with this.
I am a mother of two boys and have two DIl's, I have always got along with both of them. Have always made sure to treat them both the same, send flowers on their birthdays and try to treat them as part of the family. My dil and son are expecting their first child, this dil is very close to her family, all holidays and birthdays are spent with her family, on the couple of occasions they spent with our family she wanted to leave early because "she missed her family", I have never complained or brought up because I didn't want to have anything that could be held against me and for the most part it has worked. The issue now is that they are having a couples baby shower and have invited my other son and wife, my mother and my aunts, I however was not invited.
I do know what started it, about a year ago I started planning a vacation for my SO, myself and my two sons and their families so we could all be together. Everyone was excited and my SO and I paid for it (we are not wealthy and took a year to pay for). The day before we were to leave my DIL asked if her cousin could come (I did not know her), I welcomed her thinking that would make my DIL happy as her whole life revolves around her family. The cousin was so disrespectful to both my SO and myself and then started creating problems for the family until I eventually blew up at her. My expecting dil will never accept anyone crossing her family, even though her husband, bil and sil have all agreed that her cousin was the one out of line. And now they have excluded me and I can't seem to get over it and the shower hasn't even happened yet. Any advise?
