Post breast cancer op 'present'

I hd breast cancer surgery last August and radiotherapy November/December. No chemo, thank goodness. I was so glad to have my triangular pillow to prop me up in bed to read. And a friend gave me one to use in the car with a mini-pillow attached with velcro that you could use to keep the pressure of the seat belt off the breast. A big pot of E45 or more luxurious moisturiser to put on the boob twice a day while having the radiation. I was sent lovely flowers too, which felt very special. Good luck to your DiL.

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Reflexology session and National Trust membership so we could walk at local property en route to hospital for radiotherapy.

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It's rather rude to barge in on another.

Send very best wishes to your daughter, kittylester. The comfort of wrapping up in a soft blanket with a soft pillow, a good book or film, and tea in one's favourite mug (and maybe some lovely chocolates) cannot be overestimated in this situation. ?

I've been through this myself.
If she is going to have chemotherapy a nice pashmina will be useful as you can get very cold due to the chemo drugs coming out of the fridge and running through your veins.
Just a word of advice for your daughter regarding chemotherapy is if the cannula is going into your hand wearing thermal gloves right up until the nurse is ready to insert the needle will make it much easier as the warmth makes the veins protrude.
Sending love to you and your daughter

I loved my bed socks and cost blankets ,my oh used to massage my feet with softening lotion .I also used to try and keep hands warm on my way to chemo and I used to have frozen pineapple to suck that was recommended by nurses .when I lost my hair I had a couple of sleep hats because my head used to get cold during the night. Sending best wishes to your daughter through her treatment.

Thank you everyone. You are kind.

I sent my friend's daughter some lavender gel to help with dry itchy skin. She liked using it at night so the aroma would help her sleep.

When I visited her I admired her pyjamas but they were actually pyjama bottoms worn under a loose fitting nightshirt which was ideal for hot summer days.

Best wishes to your DD, kitty

Perhaps a voucher for a beauty therapy treatment: hair, nails, reiki, or massage; etc.

I wish your daughter well for her op, and also you.

Depending on the type of breast op, she might start hating her body. Positivity, reassurance and love will help her to start loving herself again. A friend of mine has had terribly low self esteem since her cancer and mastectomy. Her husband has been cruel with his words. Since I came into her life and learned all of this, I've really tried to help her to become more positive. She is slowly learning to love herself again. She is beautiful - without breasts. Beauty is also within!

Your daughter will be just as beautiful inside and out.

All the best! Hugs.

I know everyone is different, but after I had my treatment, the top three things for me were:

1. A couple of days in, my daughter dried my hair, curled it and made me feel more like me.

2. A potted hydranda came in the post and was beautiful, needed no attention and can go in the garden longer term.

3. Front buttoning night shirts that made it easier to dress myself and looked pretty when I had visitors.

Hope that helps.

There are quite a few post op bras that are available from M&S to even many supermarkets that might be nice to gift, or even "comfort bras " that go by dress size rather that cup size.
The Badger Sleep Balm is great and I found it works!
Howabout some relaxing music on CD and a CD player if she doesn't have one? I have found that listening to classical music is calming if I'm stressed and helps me to sleep or just chill out!
Speak to one of the organisations for Breast Cancer Care for advice as well.

My dd really liked the soft post surgery M&S bras which when I bought then got a nice surprise as they had a VAT reduction at checkout.

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My dd really liked the soft post surgery M&S bras which when I bought then got a nice surprise as they had a VAT reduction at checkout.

Nicola Jane is a good online firm for post-surgery bras.
www.nicolajane.com/mastectomy/bras/view-all/

Hope things will get better.
I think you'll find here something interesting as well
www.comfortcrate.com/

I found JL in Nottingham the best for bras - their fitting service is excellent. I have had loads and loads of different ones and found the soft expandables the best. I was between sizes at M&S.

Thank you all!! She loved the heart shaped cushion!

JL Nottingham is a good idea dragonfly, I could meet her for lunch too!!

I have just read through your wonderful suggestions and do hope your daughter is now feeling better.
I came on as my DIL I was informed this morning has the condition not long after having to have a hysterectomy.
She is so creative with her hands, making clothes, carpentry etc so your idea about the cushion with a heart and a lot of the items so many of you have suggested are all so interesting, many thanks.
Next week she will hear how far the cancer has spread.
Unfortunately they live in NZ which doesn’t help when trying to find items but the idea about the bra seems interesting
Cath

Cath9, just wanted to send you a hug.
So many young women having to face this awful news but also so many many good outcomes. Good luck to your daughter-in-law.

This thread was started in April.
I hope all went well for your daughter kittyL

Thank you, ExDancer - so far so good.

As I said above, she loved the heart cushion and takes it everywhere with her - a bit like a security blanket!

The op went really well but her first lot of chemo made her really poorly and she went into hospital 3 times in the week following. But, they have adjusted her doses and she is doing ok.

She is coming to us for a couple of days as the rest of her family are going to a festival. DD1 is determined not to spoil things the children had planned.

I hope things are going well for everyone else affected by this awful disease.

I'm sorry your DD suffered with the chemo kitty but am pleased she is doing better now. My daughter's friend had a cushion after her op. It was a permanent fixture with her. You can spoil your daughter when she comes to stay!

We did, kate!