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Sleepy husband

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Nana56 Fri 15-Apr-22 19:31:08

Does anyone have a husband that sleeps a lot in the evening.
He is 68 years young. He's living,kind and generous and I feel awful being irritated.
Every evening falls asleep usually after insisting on watching some awful TV programmes.
Also, if I suggest having family get together says ' I'm not a restaurant '

I know deep down he loves his family but he says he can do it from a distance!!
I know he's protecting me from doing too much, but I love having the family together.
Yesterday , my sister, who has multiple health issues asked for a lift back from hospital. I asked husband if he might be available and he said ' let her get a taxi"
I know I can be too much of a pleaser but this attitude is soooo annoying.

Rant over, thanks for reading

NanKate Sat 16-Apr-22 18:26:29

He could have an underactive thyroid

Katie59 Sun 17-Apr-22 09:24:34

Men are much more prone to this than women, because after a meal it’s usually us that clears away and does the washing up. Even this moderate activity uses up the excess blood sugar, going for a walk does the same, so keep active if at all possible.

Carenza123 Mon 18-Apr-22 06:49:37

Perhaps he has sleep apnoea? My husband was diagnosed years ago and wears a mask every night for this condition which helps a lot. Again, retired husbands seem to be bored and inactive which is not good for their well-being either. Mine has control of the tv remote and annoyingly falls asleep.

Curlywhirly Mon 18-Apr-22 09:40:42

My husband could sleep for England and win! He's been like that since I met him (age 16). He could quite easily sleep for 12 hours a night and still have an hour nap after his evening meal. It doesn't bother me, apart from on holiday, when he changes his routine and has a 2 hour nap before we go out for dinner! I so wish I could just drop off to sleep so easily- I'm the opposite, I go to bed late and regularly wake up at 5.30am, 5 hours seems to be all I can manage.

Kate51 Mon 18-Apr-22 15:06:38

I had similar problems with my husband, got him to the doctor and he was diagnosed with an underactive thyroid. After medication he is like a new man. Might be worth a check with his GP.

Nana56 Mon 18-Apr-22 18:27:35

I have suggested going to doctor and even making appointment for him. He's recently been diagnosed with AF and that's not helped.
He thinks he's protecting me from doing too much. Also ge knows that the children earn more than we could ever have dreamt off. I'm really proud if them abd still like to treat them.
I think the main problem is boredom since retirement. We do go out together ,walking coffee etc. I go to the gym . He has shed things to do. I thinks he's depressed.