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happycatholicwife1
YANBU! Anyone with an iota of kindness would make a bit more of an effort to include you. Actually being married does have bearing on this because it promises a more stable relationship and, therefore, more chance that you will be able to see your grandchildren in the future. If the partner decides your son is not for her, then what? She moves on with tons of support from her parents, and you and your son may be left in the lurch. It's quite possible if she's unreasonable toward you that she's putting pressure on your son to keep you out of the picture. I feel for you, though I have not experienced this. I wish there were a way you could speak to your son, but it doesn't sound like she lets him out of her eyesight. Honestly, I've been surprised at some of the really unkind remarks you have received here on GN. Perhaps go to a bit more counseling and pray. Of course, you should have other hobbies and interests, but no amount of painting or gardening is going to replace the love of a grandchild. You have my sympathy.
Wow. What a life belief system.
Quite.
Why do DIL's automatically get the blame? The sons are adults, and quite capable of doing as they wish, with visits.
Being married didn't stop me removing my toxic ex MIL from my life, and that of my children. She would have caused them emotional harm. ?
My ex husband had the choice about what to do in regards to his mother.
But, on a general level, ACs are generally busy, and grandchildren have their own stuff going on.
Grandparents are, rightly, not the first priority.
Just enjoy the visits, be fun to be with, not needy and moaning, and it'll all work out.?