As I said, I never met anyone who deliberately spent all their money to live on the state.
I wasn't suggesting that people deliberately spend in order to live on the state; more that living on the state is what happens when people have spent all their money.
As an example, I know someone (let's call her A) who earns in the region of £80k a year (this was pre-Covid, and is maybe a lot more now given the nature of her job), yet has no savings, rents her house and has run up significant debt on credit cards and bank loans. She has expensive holidays, she and her partner both have high end cars, they eat out most nights and spend freely.
I see nothing wrong with that - she has earned the money and it is up to her how she spends it. She has a blasé attitude to the future (her favourite phrase is 'you can't sue a corpse') and she is happy for her sons to make their own way in life, as she did. Again, that is a reasonable attitude, and it is her choice. A is in her early 60s, and will be working at least until she is 66, because of no savings and a rented house etc. She has a tiny pension coming, as she was automatically enrolled when the workplace pension came into force - but previously her attitude was that she'd worry about that when the time came, and 'they' wouldn't let her starve.
Fast forward and the chances are that she will be in a similar financial situation, not because she has had no opportunity to save, but because she has chosen not to, (as is her right) yet if she needs care she will get it free, which is as it should be, given that there is no alternative.
A is a real person, but her (mythical) twin sister, B, who worked in the same job on the same salary, but lived more frugally, paid into the pension scheme and bought a house that she hoped would provide a nest-egg for her daughters, would have to pay for the same care, sell her house and leave them with nothing*. In the interim, A will, presumably, get pension credit and help with rent, council tax, dentistry etc, and B (if she existed) would not, as she paid into an occupational pension.
I wouldn't blame B for feeling resentful, even though A hasn't deliberately disposed of her assets, as if both needed care there is a good chance that B would be left with nothing, in the same way as if she had spent money along with her sister.
*I understand that a lot of people don't think that leaving the children anything is important, but my point is that A and B should both be able to make the decision whether to leave something behind, yet only A's choices are respected by the system. B has no right to choose what to do with her own money, and whether I personally approve more of one lifestyle or the other is not important (I am not judging) - a compulsory system should be fair.
And yes, Libman - on a discussion site it is not unreasonable for people to discuss a situation.