Sleeping in separate beds - does it help?

Can you speak to the surgeon's secretary and ask if there is anything that can be done as he cannot sleep and it's all getting too much?
They may do reassessment.

We have separate beds, each a small double, but in the same room. Ony for last couple of years, and we both sleep much better now. Having 2 double beds mean we can spend time together if we wish, but both have our own space too. This after 49 years in same bed.

We had single beds pushed together, different firmnesses in mattresses. Individual duvets and bedding. We both slept much better. The beds were 3` wide

Why are people so worried about having separate rooms. We have for a few years now and neither of us would swap back. Much better sleep and more comfortable.

When husband started chemo it was time for separate rooms. We both get some sleep now at least.

We have two single beds pushed together, the equivalent of a superking bed.
We each have our own mattress and duvet. It's worked perfectly well for many years and we both sleep much better.

My husband is a snorer and the vibrations through a shared mattress used to keep me awake, quite apart from the noise. I suggested it and he was quick to agree.
Lack of sleep long-term is no joke.

For fear of DH even coming remotely near me when I recently fractured my hip albeit in a superking sized bed, I took myself off to another bedroom for three weeks. Rather enjoyed it as I could put a lamp on during the night when sleep was impossible. DH served breakfast in bed every morning and truly pampered me. Something like a dreadful flu has found one of us using this room too. Each of us taking turns to care for the other. It makes sense to us, allowing a temporary set up to suit our needs as we order, off to Ward 10 with you!
We have been married 48 years and prefer to share a bed but needs must when sleep is needed.
I do hope your DH gets word of an OP soon. Three years is a shocking length of time to live in pain. In the meantime a word with his GP about stepping up pain relief should be available.

We have separate rooms and it improved things a lot for us. My husband has cancer and was uncomfortable at night. I don't sleep well and like to read so it suits us perfectly.
Septimia is right, suggest separate beds as a temporary measure to start with.

When my husband was ill at his suggestion he went in the spare room as he often woke and would use his ipad he said it saved waking me.

With my knee pain, pre-op, I took two Paracetamol 500 and prescribed melatonin 2mg. Has he tried drugs?

I know people who have changed to separate beds because of similar problems. Why not suggest it as a temporary solution until your husband's hip is done? It might not sound quite so upsetting put like that.