tickingbird
^Why do you need to hold the baby anyway?^
This!!
Why, whenever there’s an OP like this do people have to get snippy? Of course she wants to hold the baby fgs! Ok he’s not hers, we get that but wanting to hold her grandson is natural. Some people need to be a little more understanding. There’s nothing she can do but don’t act as if the OP is somehow in the wrong for wanting to hold her new grandson.
I agree with this.
Doubly upsetting if the maternal grandmother is 'allowed' to hold the baby and be more involved than the mother in law.
I'm afraid I was guilty of the above when mine were small. I feel a bit ashamed now looking back, at not letting my mil be more involved.
I know it's natural for a new mother to gravitate more towards her own parents, but the new father also has parents, and they should also be involved. Fairs fair.
Having said the above, I hated other people holding my newborn. I always felt they weren't supporting their heads properly.
Same with feeding. I always wanted to say "hold the bottle more upright# can't you see they're getting air???