What I would tell my 20 year old self if I could

Be braver

Stop doubting yourself.
You are far more capable than you think.
Stop trying to please everyone.
Be brave , go for it!
Be more assertive.

I don't think it matters that or if our 20 year old selves would not have paid attention for the purposes of this thread...

So I'd have said "You're beautiful". And "Walk tall".

don't get married

I like your list Allsorts a lot, but I'm not sure I would have listened!

I would add one thing particular to me. I was having a bad time at uni and wrote to Dad saying he didnt love me. (he never outwardly expressed love and I was feeling down). I got the most thoughtful letter back imaginable and an invitation to talk. But I wasn't ready - it was all too much after years of silence.

then he died a year later and we never did have that conversation. So I treasure the letter and say to my younger self, have more courage, trust.

kittylester they probably did, you were just not listening. All of us are full of insecurities. All that would have happened, if you had listened, and taken notice is that you would have been full of different insecurities.

M0nica

I would say nothing. Because ones 20 year old self, would be highly unlikely to to listen because older people will have said all these things to us when we were that age, but we just took no notice.

No one said those things to me Monica or I wouldn't have been full of insecurities.

That, despite all my fears and insecurities, it will all work out fine.

I would say nothing. Because ones 20 year old self, would be highly unlikely to to listen because older people will have said all these things to us when we were that age, but we just took no notice.