Feeling rather friendless and need help to buck up.

Thank you so much for your support yesterday.

I need to find a tactful way to explain to my daughter that my energy is much more limited than she imagines. Either I need to find other ways of energy saving or I need her support in ringfencing down time.

With so many good suggestions I will keep bashing away until I find some doable activity which gives me the opportunity to meet people. All will be well.

Walking the dog yesterday, I walked past a community hall with a couple of A4 sheets pinned up, a community choir and a craft get-together advertised for daytime meets.
In my town, we've had a couple of community cafes open up since Lockdown finished. We also have craft Open House in summer and Christmas. They are useful for finding groups to join.

MrsEBear
Constant stress has a detrimental affect on the body. It’s all to do with adrenaline.

This article will explain it.
www.apa.org/topics/stress/body

So far so good thanks to the encouragement and sympathy I found here. I have taken steps ?
It’s my responsibility that I’ve been very poor at protecting time I need for my own plans and I had a lesson in that today when I actually managed to say no. Very educational!
As a result I completed some of the lingering admin so a special thank you to those who encouraged me to get it sorted.

You sound very kind MrsEBear. Too kind if that's possible.
Well done on getting the admin done. I wish I could do mine
I hope you can gradually find a new life for yourself and your son. It can't be easy but time management is the way forward making time each day for yourself.

I find a walk makes me feel better or an exercise class such as yoga.
Everyone in the class is visibly happier afterwards and more inclined to be sociable and friendly.

Yes- they say that about physical activity. I used to go to line dancing and always felt good after our sessions. A bit energetic and too much to remember for me now but it was great at the time!

Keep on practicing the ‘no’ word MrsEBear, you sound like a very strong woman coping with multiple difficulties. I hope things improve for you, take it a little at a time and expect set backs from time to time.

As others have said, moving is a huge, stressful upheaval. I think you need time to yourself to adjust before even thinking of helping out family. You also say the last few years have been difficult and I wonder if you really recovered from them, or if you really needed more time before embarking on this move.
I know from experience that it takes time in a new area to find the things you need, not only the day to day things you took for granted in the old place, but real friends, routines and favourite places. So I suggest you "press the pause button" and if you can, slow down and tell family you're taking time out for yourself. Perhaps you could mark out some time each week on your calendar to explore your new area, find a new park to walk in, a favourite cafe where you can start to become a local, and try again to find a daytime class you'll enjoy. Sort out your paperwork slowly, a little at a time. Then, gradually, after a while, find a couple of slots where you can offer some help to family. Don't overburden yourself and don't be afraid to ask for their help too.
I'm not sure if this will work for you, but the important thing is that you don't keep feeling overwhelmed and out of control. It's best to have a chat with your GP if things become too much.