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Quizzer Fri 21-Oct-22 15:37:41

I have asked about this before but I’m still looking for answers. How on earth do I stop my DH from “helping”. Here are today’s helpful disasters.

We have guests for the weekend, four adults and four children, so it is going to be busy. I had just prepared baking tins, crushed biscuits, zested and squeezed limes for my cheesecake. DH asked if he should wash up to help me. I said yes but should have watched what he was doing as when I turned round five minutes later he had washed up the greased baking tins, binned the crushed biscuits and poured the lime zest and juice down the sink down the drain. I could have cried.

Later he helpfully said “shall I get out the bed linen for the kids beds”. I said okay and hold him where to find it, adding “remember not to open the drawer under the guestroom bed”. However, that is exactly what he did – it comes off his run its runners and gets stuck fully open. I know it’s going to take us both an hour to put it back.

I’ve just sent him out to bridge club so that he can’t do any more harm.

Toetoe Sun 23-Oct-22 09:29:16

Once upon a time a long long time ago newly married I asked my husband to fill the dish washer , he piled everything into it willy nilly then pushed the door up to close without pushing in the bottom shelf , everything fell and smashed , my lovely plates and cups ruined . Now many years and numerous lifes on I look back thinking it was done deliberately as I never asked again and he never offered .

P.s. I divorced him 15 years later ?

Grantanow Sun 23-Oct-22 13:11:27

Sounds like all possible assistance short of actual help!

Ro60 Sun 23-Oct-22 13:28:47

Oh Quizzer ? ?? you've brought back some memories -
OH said it would be good for myself & DDs to have some Girl time - so we went off to Town for a leisurely afternoon. Coming home Golden Boy thought he'd done a great job in my beautiful garden by re-planting all my primroses in the woodland glade area into straight lines.
A friend fared far worse - she'd asked her - DH to cut down the poisonous Laburnum now they had a baby - he cut down 2 Apple trees instead.