Belching Loudly🤦‍♀️

He obviously thinks it is acceptable if nobody has mentioned it.

I would ask if he is ok as he keeps belching, depending on his answer either offer him a remedy or say that you find it off-putting.

I think you should have said something kindly about when he first did it now it’s an accepted ( by you all) habit
I d very kindly tell him it’s not good but better still if his son told him

Perhaps his son could tell his dad it's not normal to belch like that and that he should see the doctor or change his diet.
If it turns out there's no good reason, except perhaps eating too much, then he can tell him it's not acceptable.

I am very sympathetic to this happening to older people ( no sympathy whatsoever to the younger generation who think its hilarious.. its so NOT )

As we age, our bodies change and problems arise, your FIL maybe hard of hearing and so he doesn't realise just how loud it is and also the very important fact, he may not be able to help it.

Age is not a pass for bad manners

I can’t believe some of the posts on this thread. I have IBS, sometimes quite badly. It can result in both belching and flatulence which I find extremely difficult to control especially the latter. Fortunately for me I have an understanding family and sympathetic friends. It’s a miserable and clearly misunderstood problem. I feel very sorry for this elderly man.

There was someone in the Know Your S**t programme on Ch4 that was very embarrassed by the fact that she couldn’t stop belching. Thankfully the medical people on the programme sorted the problem out for her.

aonk agree
better out than in

My father is 96 and he does this.
Its not nice and thoroughly unpleasant at times but he really cannot help it. It is maybe something to do with acid reflux and getting old?
We give him Gaviscon but tbh that can exacerbate it.

Live and let live, there will soon be a time I will miss him and his burps terribly.

13:17notgran

Stop inviting him. Ignorant pig.

Thankyou for making me laugh out loud first time today 💐

Just as some people can't help belching loudly I just cannot eat if someone is doing this at the table
However I honestly find that if the person minimises the belch by covering their mouth with their hand and saying excuse me it's more tolerable.
Good manners learnt in our childhood rarely leave us as we age.

Aonk I do sympathise. It's not funny and can cause terrible pain if you don't get rid of it.

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Good manners learnt in our childhood rarely leave us as we age.

That just isn't true. I have cared for my Grandad and my Mum who were the epitome of good manners when they were younger but did things you would never have believed as they got older. Later on, it became clear there was some dementia going on.

Every time my Mum stands up she farts loudly. She can't help it. She used to be embarrassed but now we joke about the angels with trumpets being around. When she first used to do it, as I was around her back end helping her to stand and turn, it was incredibly off putting and I used to wonder if she did it on purpose but now I know it is just her body playing up.

Try to be kind and if there is anything that can be done about it, let your husband deal with it gently.

My late mother could freeze a whole supermarket with a belch! Everyone stopped what they were doing to look for the source of the noise (I would loved to have obtained a volume of measurement....). As I would have been pushing her wheelchair, I couldn't pretend that she was nothing to do with me!

However, as Aonk mentioned above, some comments here are sad.

As embarrassed as I was, I understood that my mother could not help herself. Would someone want to make such an awful noise in public? She was as mortified as I was.

As Maybee mentions above, the *Know your s*t programme - on television earlier this week - showcased someone with a similar affliction (although I would bet my little old frail mother's efforts would trump anyone else's!).

These gigantic belches are not a matter of a burb not being suppressed because the person couldn't be bothered but a genuine medical problem. If you should hear a very loud belch, please be a little more sympathetic!

I just hope this is not an inherited condition.......!

NorfolkNonna Do you have water or other drinks at the table? I think I heard somewhere that drinking while eating encourages swallowing air and that causes burping.

I really believe that noisy burping is unnecessary and extremely rude and offensive. People should be taught, from an early age, to keep their lips together. That way, the pressure is released silently through the nose.

I have digestive issues and a hiatus hernia which often causes me to belch, frequently, sometimes so loudly I think my neighbours can hear it!
However, I only do this at home and wouldn't dream of doing it in company.

I would be tempted to discuss this with him quietly and discreetly, so avoid confrontation when he makes his usual visit.
Suggest something like, 'do you have pain or discomfort during these episodes? is there any particular foodstuffs that aggravate it? suggest a GP visit to determine if there's an underlying medical issue.
If all that fails then just say how unpleasant his habit is and can he rein it in a bit?

We have a male friend that does this. I absolutely HATE it! It seems too late to mention it now as it’s gone on too long…..

I repeat: There's absolutely no need to make a disgusting noise. Keep lips sealed and the burp comes out, silently, down the nose. It's called consideration for others, which is the basis of good manners.

He's 87 for goodness sake! You might not like it, but I think you should be tolerant of something that he may not be able to help it for physiological reasons, or perhaps he has become disinhibited because he has some incipient dementia?

I can't believe some of the horrible down right rude comments from some. He's 87. Let's hope none of you end up like this. Then have your family dump you due to it. Perhaps he needs to see a doctor or shown some respect and tolerance.

Surely good manners dictates ignoring it?
And hope that others may be as polite about embarrasssing problems of ours when we're 97.

This is a cultural issue. There is nothing inherently wrong in letting out gas at either end. It arises from the digestive process and some foods (e.g. , broccoli, beans) tend to generate more as we age. People in other parts of the world take a different view of its occurrence. Charcoal tablets can reduce it by absorption in the stomach.

Watching the 'poo' programme on tv this week there was a woman who had this problem, worse still, they smelled of bad eggs. She was mortified. Yes its not pleasant but it may not be anything he can do sbout it, but an 'excuse me' might help. He's 87!
My sil thinks its ok to fart whenever he feels like it. Its rude but I say nothing.