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Belching Loudly🤦‍♀️

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NorfolkNonna Mon 30-Jan-23 12:57:36

MIL died last summer so FIL (87) is invited most weeks for family Sunday dinner. But he belches - very loudly, frequently and it’s extremely off putting. Clearly was the done thing with them - but we hate it. What do I do🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️😡

ExDancer Mon 30-Jan-23 13:13:32

A packet of peppermint lozenges or Rennie's or similar offered in a very kind and understanding voice "try these, I'm sorry my dinner's given you flatulence". Maybe he's thinking its a complement like my DH did when we first married.
I soon told him it wasn't, we weren't in Arabia.

nadateturbe Mon 30-Jan-23 13:14:15

Perhaps he has stomach problems.

notgran Mon 30-Jan-23 13:17:53

Stop inviting him. Ignorant pig.

rosie1959 Mon 30-Jan-23 13:19:25

He could have a stomach problem so may have a problem.
Not much you can really do without embarrassing him.
He doesn’t have flatulence that’s the other end which could be worse

Urmstongran Mon 30-Jan-23 13:25:26

GERD causes this. He can’t help it.
Suggest omeprazole from the pharmacist?

grandtanteJE65 Mon 30-Jan-23 13:25:36

Is this something new? I mean, I assume your FIL visited you formerly while his wife was alive.

I would try the tactful approach first and ask him if there are any foods he finds hard to digest and you are wondering whether something you serve, or whatever you fry food in is causing him to belch so much after eating.

If it is indigestion pure and simple, you should be able to avoid whatever causes it if you know what that is.

Do you and your husband eat faster than your FIL is accustomed to doing? Trying to keep up with fast eaters could well cause belching. So could ill-fitting dentures.

If he says something like, oh I always belch after meals, then you will either have to put up with it, or say that you would prefer him to leave the table before doing so.

HowVeryDareYou Mon 30-Jan-23 13:49:04

I used to hate going to my in-laws for dinner, because MIL, FIL, and SIL all used to belch and fart. Dirty gits.

BlueBelle Mon 30-Jan-23 13:58:32

Notgran that’s horrible
Just tell him in a kind way Dad or whatever you call him can you not do that it’s not good in front of the kids or you frighten the dog or whatever reason you want to give
But really if he’s your in law it should be his son having a quiet word

notgran Mon 30-Jan-23 16:51:53

BlueBelle

Notgran that’s horrible
Just tell him in a kind way Dad or whatever you call him can you not do that it’s not good in front of the kids or you frighten the dog or whatever reason you want to give
But really if he’s your in law it should be his son having a quiet word

I regard someone coming to a relatives home and him considering that belching loudly and often is acceptable, not excusing themself or offering an explanation thereby making the relatives uncomfortable is horrid. Who does that, or have I been living in a strange world where loud belching is not considered acceptable but everywhere else it is?

AGAA4 Mon 30-Jan-23 16:59:52

Buy him Deflatine from Boots and ask him to take them before dinner as it will stop him feeling uncomfortable with his win problem.

AGAA4 Mon 30-Jan-23 17:00:19

wind

Hithere Mon 30-Jan-23 17:15:41

Talk to him

AreWeThereYet Mon 30-Jan-23 17:32:22

My MiL used to do that after a meal followed by 'Eeeh that's better'. I was a bit shocked initially but learnt to ignore it. She had all sorts of problems so I never did find out why she did it.

Germanshepherdsmum Mon 30-Jan-23 17:35:26

I simply wouldn’t have him in the house until he agreed not to do it.

crazyH Mon 30-Jan-23 17:36:44

In some cultures, belching is a sign of appreciation of the food that the hostess has prepared for you

Georgesgran Mon 30-Jan-23 17:39:24

We used to reckon my MiL could probably have burped the alphabet and then some! It seemed to rumble from somewhere down her boots upwards! The DDs thought it was hilarious when they were younger.
Again, we never found out what caused it, although she ate so fast, that I said she should have racing colours on her knife and fork - that, like lots of other things I said - did not go down well!

JaneJudge Mon 30-Jan-23 17:40:48

crazyH

In some cultures, belching is a sign of appreciation of the food that the hostess has prepared for you

I was going to post this.....grin

Shelflife Mon 30-Jan-23 17:47:46

I agree with Notgran. This is unacceptable! Speak to him or get your DH to do it. it may be beyond his control but I doubt it. I would find it extremely offensive. Old age is no excuse!!!

sodapop Mon 30-Jan-23 17:54:41

I agree with other posters NorfolkNonna offer your father in law an indigestion remedy and say you are concerned about his health. If this is a long standing habit it may be difficult to stop now he is 87.

Yammy Mon 30-Jan-23 18:11:22

I think I would offer to try and see a DR. with him. His wife had probably given up and just accepted it.

BlueBelle Mon 30-Jan-23 18:17:56

notgran

Stop inviting him. Ignorant pig.

Of course bleaching loudly isn’t acceptable but neither is calling an elderly man an ignorant pig

nadateturbe Mon 30-Jan-23 18:21:49

notgran

Stop inviting him. Ignorant pig.

You can’t just stop inviting him.

And what if he can’t help it?

Shelflife Mon 30-Jan-23 19:00:55

If he can't help it , he should try and leave the room before it happens. If that is not possible he should be apologizing profusely!!

ExperiencedNotOld Mon 30-Jan-23 19:09:24

My in-laws were the same and considered it their way and that it was something only I had a problem with, even though their son would be the one telling them. They were very poorly socialised and I honestly believe never learnt acceptable and polite behaviour.
At 87, I’d suggest this to be a lost cause. Yes, offer whatever remedy you like, but it’ll probably result in upset and I’ll feeling.
Put up with it, or take a meal to him maybe?