Ashamed to show my arms

We all want to look the best we can don't we. The good news is that sheer sleeves are going to be in fashion for Summer 2023. They help blur our wrinkly arms.

A fellow Gransnetter pointed me in the direction of Oliva Soap Bars. I get mine from Amazon and it has vastly improved the texture of the crepey skin on my arms. The bingo wings, however, despite years of aquacise, are here to stay sadly.

I don’t like the term “bingo wings”. I think it’s disrespectful to older women. Many of us don’t go to bingo anyway!

I couldn't care less what you want to call them - but there's only one cure for mine, and that's a knife.

I think bingo wings - or the lack of them, is often hereditary. Thankfully the gene doesn't run my family.

I always use Faith in Nature products.. soap, shower gel and body lotion and don't have any dry.wrinkly skin at aged 70. Also take high dose fish oils which help.. but I do have the dreaded floppy upper arms so in spring/summer I invariably cover them with linen or cotton shirts.. not in the garden or on the beach..Sun is so wonderful..

I'm with you too! Just bought my first long sleeved evening dress for formal dos.
It's certainly saving me money - anything without sleeves is Out straight away.
I'm hoping I'll get used to this 'ol body.
Just when I was beginning to get used to all the other differences in being older.

I don’t much like mine, so I wear 3/4 sleeves. When it’s really hot I find it more comfortable to cover up (with cotton or linen) anyway.

Mine aren’t perfect but it doesn’t bother me I wear sleeveless dresses if people don’t like it tough I’m 74 what do they expect.

Really Blondie You’d put yourself through cosmetic surgery if you had them?
pascal whatever you use for your skin external or internal, mostly the condition is down to either sun exposure or genes.

Farzanah

Really Blondie You’d put yourself through cosmetic surgery if you had them?
pascal whatever you use for your skin external or internal, mostly the condition is down to either sun exposure or genes.

No, I'd never put myself through any kind of cosmetic surgery, but my arms are honestly so horrific that that's the only thing which would sort them. I have absolutely no body confidence anyway, and yes, I have not only seen people staring at them but also heard comments about them, which has only made me feel even worse about myself.

Farzanah

Really Blondie You’d put yourself through cosmetic surgery if you had them?
pascal whatever you use for your skin external or internal, mostly the condition is down to either sun exposure or genes.

Yes Farzanah you could be correct my mum always had beautifully unwrinkled skin

M0nica

I am as I am. I look like an old woman. I am an old woman. Best thing is simply to ignore your imperfections. The more you seem embarressed by them, the more people will notice them, If you ignore them, no one else will notice.

I disagree MOnica. Ignoring something doesn’t mean nobody will notice it. I may be in my 70s, but I do my best, without looking like mutton, to make the best of myself rather than ignore something that might be better covered up. I may be an old woman but have no desire to look like one.

Yes luck of the draw, but all we can do is moisturise and keep hydrated 😀 You are so lucky. I have pale Northern European skin which is prone to wrinkle. However my DM is still alive at 98!

My upper arms are not fit to be seen. I always wear elbow length or three quarter sleeves.
But I'm 85 so that's my excuse.

M0nica

I am as I am. I look like an old woman. I am an old woman. Best thing is simply to ignore your imperfections. The more you seem embarressed by them, the more people will notice them, If you ignore them, no one else will notice.

Agree

Witzend

I don’t much like mine, so I wear 3/4 sleeves. When it’s really hot I find it more comfortable to cover up (with cotton or linen) anyway.

I agree.
There aren’t many attractive upper arms after middle age, better to cover up when going out in the sun and better for your skin too.

My upper arms are absolutely fine, no bingo wings however, my stomach…🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ (just turned, 70)… hip, measurement, and waist measurement are the same, and have been for years actually…🤷‍♀️

Blondiescot

I couldn't care less what you want to call them - but there's only one cure for mine, and that's a knife.

How many times will you do it. And where do you stop- eyelids, lips, boobs, and on and on.

Shinamae

My upper arms are absolutely fine, no bingo wings however, my stomach…🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ (just turned, 70)… hip, measurement, and waist measurement are the same, and have been for years actually…🤷‍♀️

I don’t believe you.

I hate my arms now I’m in my late 60’s but when the weather turns warm I live in sleeveless tops & dresses. I hate being bundled up in winter clothes and look forward to feeling comfortable in the warm sunny weather. I find Nivea cocoa body butter is good for moistening my (very) dry skin. I don’t much care what people think.

Fleurpepper

Blondiescot

I couldn't care less what you want to call them - but there's only one cure for mine, and that's a knife.

How many times will you do it. And where do you stop- eyelids, lips, boobs, and on and on.

If you'd read my follow-up post, you'd have seen that I would never contemplate cosmetic surgery of any kind. I'm merely pointing out that nothing else would fix mine.

Good to read. Because, as said,at our age, where would you stop if you started ...

Don't like mine either, but last year, I did wear sleeveless Ts in the garden and in informal places, but covered up when 'in public'. But I did get into the habit of doing 100 arm circles, with palms up and palms down, every morning, and it did make quite a difference. Must start again.

Poppyred

Shinamae

My upper arms are absolutely fine, no bingo wings however, my stomach…🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ (just turned, 70)… hip, measurement, and waist measurement are the same, and have been for years actually…🤷‍♀️

I don’t believe you.

Excuse me?

So called bingo wings (I hate that its so belittling) are your triceps and yes exercise can help if you want.
10 minutes
www.youtube.com/watch?v=iZfcMoytgoA

sometimes I bother...