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Do you remind your adult children about sending cards ?

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GibraltarRock42 Fri 12-May-23 06:55:06

Thanks foe your responses - the thing I think I can’t tolerate is that I do send cards where I want to and I send messages and am very good at it - and have also decided, as an adult, who I’ll send them to - so to have her doing this is very irritating…….most things now I simply nod and wave and do the ‘mmm’ , ‘yes I know’. But this is that ‘thing’ that totally winds me up and I can’t reason with it !!!!

tanith Fri 12-May-23 06:54:57

No I don’t remind any of them although birthday plans may be discussed I certainly don’t tell them to send cards.

Granmarderby10 Fri 12-May-23 06:50:48

Hetty58 I do not agree that sending someone a card is a waste of time or utterly useless.

mumofmadboys Fri 12-May-23 06:42:24

I have 5 adult sons. I send them a reminder for family birthdays and they send each other greetings - not cards but texts or facebook. I fear they would forget without a reminder!

Hetty58 Fri 12-May-23 06:33:09

Whitewavemark2, more than mildly irritating, infuriating, in fact - when you're constantly told to do things their way - the only right and proper way - and you know, for sure - that they're talking b****cks!

Whitewavemark2 Fri 12-May-23 06:15:23

I’m in my late 70s - mum died a couple of years ago, but still reminded me. I very occasionally remind one of my children but mostly don’t.

Mildly irritating I know but hey Ho, in the scheme of things it is a small matter.

Hetty58 Fri 12-May-23 05:50:28

My mother loved a 'nice card' (good quality) - and somehow attached great meaning to receiving one - so they were duly sent to her, begrudgingly, but not to other family members.

I send a text or email and never send cards now. What a waste of time and resources, how horribly environmentally unfriendly - and how utterly useless?

Allsorts Fri 12-May-23 05:35:31

She's doing what a lot of us do, reminding the family about sending cards etc as they matter to her. Afraid you being in your 50's won't alter that. If you are like a lot of people now, don't want to send cards just tell her. Get it over and done with. You can't can't blame the post you just do it earlier and they would get there. My mother told me nearly every week that my way of making gravy was not as she did, in the end I told her I preferred my way and that's why I did it line that, the injured silence made me regret it. These things niggle, but she was a wonderful mom and I wish she were still here.

GibraltarRock42 Fri 12-May-23 01:32:04

This is a constant bug bear of mine….. my 80 year old mother telling me I’ve upset ‘x’ by not sending a card… when I have but the mail has let me down. Why does she feel the need to tell me ? What do I say to her or do I just ignore her ?I’m in my 50’s btw - do a lot for her/with her and am very capable. One small failing (which is out of my control) and the need to tell is immediate !!!! Respond to her with a justification ? Or ignore ? Or have a rant? I am torn between all three ! Thank you