Swim wear for the larger lady

No-one will be comparing the two of you and there will probably be all shapes and sizes there.

You could buy swim shorts and a top rather than a swim dress which might flap around.
Keep a sarong handy for wrapping round your waist when you get out of the pool.

Enjoy yourself 🙂

www.yoursclothing.co.uk/black-stretch-short-swim-shorts-p?currency=GBP&S=ADPRODUCT&gclid=CjwKCAjw04yjBhApEiwAJcvNof4OshGRmJRaBaQcPQ3UeQU2ZFiKKzDjW4KO0FL4jiL36HoJ1FhMphoCK88QAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

A tankini?

I am about the same height as you, bytheway and only a stone lighter. I am going away on holiday for the first time in 4 years next month, and have bought a "boy shorts swimsuit" as the tops of my legs are now a bit baggy and saggy (I am 66, by the way).

But as ever-sensible Callistemon says, there will be all shapes and sizes on display and no-one will bat an eyelid and I doubt your step daughter will be judging you against herself. Your holiday sounds wonderful, just please let go and enjoy yourself and your time with your family.

I wear a swimming costume and a sarong, it looks good.
I take the sarong off before I go into the pool, and towel dry excess water when I get out, then put the sarong back on.
Honestly you see all shapes and sizes in a pool, no one really cares about what others are wearing or look like.
Enjoy your holiday and don't worry.

bytheway if you go to a swimming pool or gym, or even look around in the street, people are not worried by their own or anyone else's shape or size it seems. There is no need to be self concious and as someone said to me once when I was having a flap 'Who's looking at you?' Find a nice swimming shorts ensemble or similar, and enjoy yourself!

I agree with Callistemon - these are a life saver and will keep you looking good. 😎😎😎

I need to order some myself 😀

There are some lovely swim dresses out there

here's one

www.landsend.co.uk/Womens_Tummy_Control_Swim_Dress_/pp/P_43075.html?dwvar_P__43075_sizeVariation=59&dwvar_P__43075_color=K7E&cgid=11307

Expensive, but many others cheaper on usual websites. Just google "swim dresses" and a lot come up.

Or go for tankini top with swim skirt, which has pants built into pretty "cover the bits you want skirts". M n s has a black swim skirt for £17.50 which you team with tankini tops.

PS - landsend stuff is brilliant on swimwear - dont ike most of their stuff. I have a lovely tummy control swimsuit which I bought in long length as it tends to cover bum better.

Or landend prettier

www.landsend.co.uk/s/LandsEndUK/Womens_Chlorine_Resistant_Sweetheart_Swim_Dress_Swimsuit_/pp/P_42640.html

What I feel self conscious with in the gym is totally different when people strip off on the beach, every one is doing it and all shapes sizes.

They're neat, Wyllow

Ones I've seen are too full and flappy.

Yes the "sweetheart" swim dresses I'd be buying for the beach these days tho I'm not "big" they do look nice.

Actually in the gym pool there ia a trend in the yoof to have little pretty sticky out skirty bits.

I wear a tankini and am the Same weight but as shorter so if I do it so can you. There will be all manner of shapes and sizes so enjoy yourself and the time you can spend with family.

I am also a larger lady and this time of year I'm quite pale too.

I don’t buy plain colours as they show up my lumps by creating "shadows" and I don't buy black as think I look pasty-white in it. I look less lumpy in busy-patterned swimsuits and if they have a bit of detail so much the better.

I like something like this, ideally:
www.fantasie.com/uk/en/swimwear/swimsuits/adjustable-leg-swimsuits/aguada-beach-splash-aguada-beach-splash-uw-twist-front-swimsuit-with-adjustable-leg/p/fs502931sph/

I also don't like the ones with the additional bra-type fastening at the back as they are harder to put on and take off - and from choice I'd have one with a scoop back rather than a straight-cut one.

I now always buy a bra-sized one so I feel a better shape as I've a larger bust. If I buy one in my dress size they are too small at the top or don't pull me in at all over my (too generous) stomach!

I swim regularly and find I also look better in a costume that is not a dress as they tend to "chop me off" on the wrong bit. Better to brave the regular legs in my opinion.

I know it's a minefield- good luck! And have fun.

Thanks all for your replies, I spent yesterday evening looking at options and have ordered a tankini type ensemble with long shorts which should arrive today. Should cover my worst bits and fingers crossed they fit well.

I am a size 18 .... so a larger lady... and I have found that things that you try on in your bedroom and think 'Oh I can't be seen in that' you feel totally different about when you are at the pool surrounded by everyone else in their swimwear. As has already been said you will see all different shapes and sizes and all having fun .... and nobody cares what everyone else looks like!!
Have a Great Holiday x

bytheway My daughter is your height and weighs several stone more than you, and swimming including wild swimming is her passion. She swims several miles, several times a week and wears the usual speedo type swimming costumes that all regular swimmers well.

If you asked her, she would say what Callistemon says, once you get to your destination, you will meet people of all shapes and sizes in all kinds of swim suits and no one will take any notice of anyone else - unless of course you act all embarressed.

In the early years of GN, I won a Mother and Daughter Spa visit. DD and I went, but with some trepidation, as I too was several stone overweight at the time and we expected to find the spa full of elegant 'ladies who lunch' and beach babes.

When we got there we found lots of other mothers and daughters shaped just like us, and we had a whale of a time - and still are regular spa visitors, even DH comes and loves it - and he is relatively a lot more overweight than you are

So head up high, buy a costume you like, regardless of style and just get into it and enjoy yourself.

bytheway has ordered a tankini type ensemble with long shorts, she says.

I also recommend Yours.
They have a huge range of swimwear .

I wear Muslim swimwear as I'm so self conscious about my swollen legs - one side looks horrendous .
I bought them on Amazon .

I think that I'd probably look better with a nice swimdress instead of being embarrassed and ashamed !

A fake tan would make you look much slimmer
Compliment it with a nice mani pedi !
I'm thinking turquoise and hot pink or maybe green for the summer !
And don't forget a kaftan and a sarong .

You are beautiful as you are !
Enjoy the holiday .

bytheway your step-D and her children love you for who you are. Don’t judge yourself harshly is what I would say.
Most ladies are unhappy with their shape/size if you ask them, and I find putting on a sarong as soon as I have finished in the pool gives me confidence.
I like kaftans too.
Have a wonderful time 💐

I haven't read the whole thread, bytheway, so apologies if someone has suggested Lands End already. They claim to "fit every body".

Good luck and enjoy your holiday!

A fake tan would make you look much slimmer

Good idea.

Sorry Baggs
They may claim to "fit every body"
... but their swimsuits don't fit mine!