If you look upthread I did acknowledge she had done the right thing in taking it up.
I am however aware, living in a city with friends from different cultures, that sometimes people assume that they are "foreign" because of the colour of their skin, and it does genuinely affect their lives and that of their families to have it assumed.
Therefore I do take opportunities to gently point out to people this may be the case.
I don't get offended. I heave a sigh, feel sad, and concerned for those friends I have, and make my point.
A quote for those blessed with a spouse:
I hope the new PM is kind to Larry the Cat



