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MoaningTurtle Wed 02-Aug-23 11:30:13

Sassysayso
Yes I understand that but that’s her nature anyway, this is just an example.
Not forgetting of course it’s also my son’s baby and he should be allowed to seek reassurance from his own mother.

MoaningTurtle Wed 02-Aug-23 11:28:04

I guess it’s because he hates confrontation of any kind. I think he will tell me anyway but I have to pretend not to know.

sassysaysso Wed 02-Aug-23 11:27:44

I can understand your upset but it is a vulnerable time for her. It is after all her body and it is really up to her who she chooses to know and discuss the details of her pregnancy. I'm afraid you have to follow her lead here.

Smileless2012 Wed 02-Aug-23 11:22:54

It's her pregnancy but it's their child she's carrying and I agree MoaningTurtle "why does she get to tell him what he can and can't say" and why does he let her?

MoaningTurtle Wed 02-Aug-23 11:14:51

@pascal30
This is my opinion. Why does she get to tell him what he can and can’t say?!

pascal30 Wed 02-Aug-23 11:13:32

It's as much your son's right to share this news as it is his wife's

MoaningTurtle Wed 02-Aug-23 10:48:49

One of my DILs seems to resent our existence!
Today they have had their 20 week scan and thankfully all looks fine, however the placenta is low so she will need a scan at 36 weeks but they said they aren’t worried at all.
My son has just hurriedly texted me to pretend he hadn’t told me as she only wants her own mum to know.
I understand it’s her pregnancy and totally up to her what she does but this is just typical of her, she sees her mum during the week but doesn’t ever come to us, doesn’t want my son to ever tell us anything.
Am I wrong to find this hurtful?