Families!!

pandapatch

What eazybee said!

But if
"it’s his priorities which is what causes most problems he puts his mates and hobby before everything and that includes partner and kids"

then that's not really everyone's problem, but something between him and his partner, and not a really a reason for excluding him and puts his partner in a very difficult situation.

Grin and bear it for the children's sake?

Agreed. We come from a large family too and honestly this “problem” is none of her siblings business. Unless she’s saying it’s a problem it’s not one at all.

I think everyone should be invited. It's up to individuals if they want to go or not.

tanith so now plans are in the pipeline for everyone to go abroad together next Summer but it’s already been said that if he’s invited some of the others won’t come and we’re talking brothers sisters and young cousins too.

Simple, don't invite him.