Background: Dad currently has his own flat, he has early stages dementia and has recently taken a turn for the worse. I am one of his 5 children. My nearest 2 siblings lives 45mins and 1.5 hours drive away, both still working. I live 400 miles away and the other 2 somewhere in between.
We all have power of attorney. The decision was taken a few weeks ago (between all the siblings) that he now needs full time dementia care and a suitable home has been found.
His savings will fund roughly a years stay, then the flat will be sold, then….who knows.
At the moment oldest brother is setting up an assessment for Dad which will be carried out by care home.
The closer we get to this the more uneasy I am feeling. No one has yet told Dad of this decision. Should we have involved him in the first place? Do we have the right to do this?
Of all of us I am least closest to Dad and furthest away and it’s been my 2 siblings that live the closest that have been dealing with everything and as I am not there often I have largely had to trust in what they are telling me (which I do implicitly)
Have any of you had to deal with this? Should we have involved him from the start? How do we tell him?
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