2year old DGS escaping from car seat

www.childcarseats.org.uk/choosing-using/children-undoing-their-harness/

? straitjacket ?

ixion

Put him in thick fleece mittens without thumbs.
Compromise his dexterity.

This is a good idea if he is hard to deal with in a hurry and you can get them on quickly

I would not compromise the buckle in case of emergency. There are things out there with velcro etc but the emergency services don't recommend.

They are trying, but TBH they are inclined to be less than consistent

He will see right through this, little monkey!
Parents do underestimate what hard work children can be.
I always say to my minded children's parents in similar cases,
"Get a grip now, because in ten years time when they're taller than you you've got no chance!"
They usually go quite pale... 😟

Put him in thick fleece mittens without thumbs.
Compromise his dexterity.

Bella23

You have to be the adult in this situation and let him know it. We all had to teach children about safety issues that they need to obey. Perhaps he is allowed to get away with other things or even smiled at. An adult has to think for the child which you are obviously trying to do but do his parents?

They are trying, but TBH they are inclined to be less than consistent

V3ra

^I still wonder if the straps are too loose - this can happen too easily if the child is wearing something like a puffy coat for example.^

You're quite right and it's not recommended for a child to wear a coat in the car seat now, precisely because of this.
If it's really cold you can slip their arms into the sleeves so they're wearing the coat backwards and on top of the straps, otherwise tuck a blanket round them on top of the straps.

Ironically DGS won’t wear his coat either. But I know DD and DSIL are looking at things that tighten the straps.

Hithere

General warning for posters: safety is a huge issue for parents

A caregiver who puts their child in danger (nevermind how much how much this person claims not to do anything to hurt the child and to want the best for the child) - may see the access restricted

I will not take him out in the car until this issue is sorted.

Farmor15

If some posters read the thread properly they would see that it's the poster's daughter who has the problem, particularly on school run. And the child has learnt how to undo buckle- not wriggling out of not tight enough straps.
One of my GCs did this once but a stern talking to and threats seems to have sorted it for now.

Thank you

V3ra

If he's clever enough to work out how to undo the buckle, then he's clever enough to understand that it's not allowed. Everybody has to wear their seatbelt, it's not up for discussion.
If you have a wilful child then sometimes, for their own safety and everyone else's, you just have to be firm.
I'd suggest a new special little toy that he's only allowed if he wears his seatbelt properly. If he doesn't, he forfeits it. Every time.
Same with reins when they're required to safeguard him.

Thanks. - the special toy is a good idea.

dotpocka

maybe for those not handy
www.madeformums.com/reviews/3-ways-to-stop-your-child-getting-out-of-a-car-seat/

Thank you will pass on to DD

If some posters read the thread properly they would see that it's the poster's daughter who has the problem, particularly on school run. And the child has learnt how to undo buckle- not wriggling out of not tight enough straps.
One of my GCs did this once but a stern talking to and threats seems to have sorted it for now.

I still wonder if the straps are too loose - this can happen too easily if the child is wearing something like a puffy coat for example.

You're quite right and it's not recommended for a child to wear a coat in the car seat now, precisely because of this.
If it's really cold you can slip their arms into the sleeves so they're wearing the coat backwards and on top of the straps, otherwise tuck a blanket round them on top of the straps.

You have to be the adult in this situation and let him know it. We all had to teach children about safety issues that they need to obey. Perhaps he is allowed to get away with other things or even smiled at. An adult has to think for the child which you are obviously trying to do but do his parents?

If he's clever enough to work out how to undo the buckle, then he's clever enough to understand that it's not allowed. Everybody has to wear their seatbelt, it's not up for discussion.
If you have a wilful child then sometimes, for their own safety and everyone else's, you just have to be firm.
I'd suggest a new special little toy that he's only allowed if he wears his seatbelt properly. If he doesn't, he forfeits it. Every time.
Same with reins when they're required to safeguard him.

General warning for posters: safety is a huge issue for parents

A caregiver who puts their child in danger (nevermind how much how much this person claims not to do anything to hurt the child and to want the best for the child) - may see the access restricted

As in, he will have to put up with it.

ComeOnGran

He won’t do reins either. He wants to be free!

Tough

Why such rude answers to someone who has asked for assistance? This is an issue we had with my DGS some years ago when he was 18 months old. I remember searching for something to help and being completely dismissed by a Mothercare assistant who also seemed to think the answer was to tell him not to undo the belt. Yes that works in the end, as does refusing to drive anywhere until he leaves it alone but in the mean time it is a dangerous situation and distracting for the driver. Car seat buckles are designed for easy opening in an emergency and little fingers love to open things. We had to resort to putting something over the button in the end while he learnt but that is not ideal either. I think here are more things on the market now to help but be careful that in the event of an accident that you can get him out of the seat quickly.

It is clearly not the right seat and/or tight enough

He might not like it in the beginning but his safety is paramount and you are the adult and you are in charge, not him

Who is in charge here? You or the child?

Who should be in charge?

These are all problems you can deal with.

is it right seat and harness for him.
maybe go to halfords and discuss options.
he obviously needs to be securely restrained.
and told it is the law.
is he neuro-diverse, if so maybe support groups would have some ideas.

maybe for those not handy
www.madeformums.com/reviews/3-ways-to-stop-your-child-getting-out-of-a-car-seat/

friend make a sleeve that covered about 6 inches whenthe belt was engaged pushed it over the actual buckle
it worked

Thank you!