Grandparents with grandchildren in jail…

You may be the only person that will stand by your grandson. I think that's worth taking into consideration. I wish you well in an impossible situation.

Oh my goodness! I can't begin to imagine how you feel and I hope you have the support of friends. Whatever happens I feel it is important to retain your relationship with your son , it would seem he feels his son is guilty. He must be going through hell! Obviously we do not understand the full story but I think your son needs you, please do not jeopardize your relationship with him . I wish you well💐

Your son obviously considers that your grandson is guilty and I assume you think that a paid lawyer is more likely to get him found not guilty. Your grandson will receive proper representation from a qualified lawyer under the public defender system. Don’t risk losing your son over this. If your grandson is guilty of having taken another person’s life it’s right that he is convicted and appropriately sentenced.

Oh wow what a dilemma I do feel for you, on one hand you feel the need to help your grandson and on the other risk alienating your son not a choice I would like to make!
Can you afford it? And it seems that your grandson is a repeat offender from what you've posted.
I don't envy you and hope you make the right decision.

You don't say if you feel your grandson is guilty or innocent, I presume the latter as you want him defended in the best possible way. I also assume from your son's comment that he thinks he IS guilty, as surely otherwise he would feel as you do. If your grandson is guilty, do you still feel he should have the best chance to be found innocent? I'm sorry, if this sounds judgemental, but I can see where your son is coming from if he feels his own son may be guilty. Do correct me if I've misunderstood, and I'm sorry you find yourself in this sad situation anyway

Can’t give you any advice as I have no experience, but do feel for you. Don’t cause a rift with you son though, he must be heartbroken too and need you. . I don’t know the back up to this as there are so many different factors that come into play. Has your grandson been a good decent person up until now. Someone is dead now who would still be alive. There is a saying saying, hate the sin but love the sinner, don’t let that blind you to the the truth.

What an awful situation you are in. I’ve no experience of this, and I think you’re in the US so not sure how things work over there. Sorry I can’t help! You have my sympathy

My son also said if I help my grandson he will never see me again.. my heart is so broken.