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Grandparents with grandchildren in jail…

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OldFrill Thu 16-Nov-23 14:05:36

You may be the only person that will stand by your grandson. I think that's worth taking into consideration. I wish you well in an impossible situation.

Shelflife Thu 16-Nov-23 14:02:37

Oh my goodness! I can't begin to imagine how you feel and I hope you have the support of friends. Whatever happens I feel it is important to retain your relationship with your son , it would seem he feels his son is guilty. He must be going through hell! Obviously we do not understand the full story but I think your son needs you, please do not jeopardize your relationship with him . I wish you well💐

Germanshepherdsmum Thu 16-Nov-23 13:25:41

Your son obviously considers that your grandson is guilty and I assume you think that a paid lawyer is more likely to get him found not guilty. Your grandson will receive proper representation from a qualified lawyer under the public defender system. Don’t risk losing your son over this. If your grandson is guilty of having taken another person’s life it’s right that he is convicted and appropriately sentenced.

sweetcakes Thu 16-Nov-23 13:02:07

Oh wow what a dilemma I do feel for you, on one hand you feel the need to help your grandson and on the other risk alienating your son not a choice I would like to make!
Can you afford it? And it seems that your grandson is a repeat offender from what you've posted.
I don't envy you and hope you make the right decision.

hamster58 Thu 16-Nov-23 12:58:17

You don't say if you feel your grandson is guilty or innocent, I presume the latter as you want him defended in the best possible way. I also assume from your son's comment that he thinks he IS guilty, as surely otherwise he would feel as you do. If your grandson is guilty, do you still feel he should have the best chance to be found innocent? I'm sorry, if this sounds judgemental, but I can see where your son is coming from if he feels his own son may be guilty. Do correct me if I've misunderstood, and I'm sorry you find yourself in this sad situation anyway

Allsorts Thu 16-Nov-23 12:57:58

Can’t give you any advice as I have no experience, but do feel for you. Don’t cause a rift with you son though, he must be heartbroken too and need you. . I don’t know the back up to this as there are so many different factors that come into play. Has your grandson been a good decent person up until now. Someone is dead now who would still be alive. There is a saying saying, hate the sin but love the sinner, don’t let that blind you to the the truth.

Blossoming Thu 16-Nov-23 12:53:53

What an awful situation you are in. I’ve no experience of this, and I think you’re in the US so not sure how things work over there. Sorry I can’t help! You have my sympathy flowers

Nolittleredluggage Thu 16-Nov-23 12:45:24

My son also said if I help my grandson he will never see me again.. my heart is so broken.

Nolittleredluggage Thu 16-Nov-23 12:26:21

my grandson is in another state. He was arrested for second-degree murder. I’m trying to get an attorney for him and it’s expensive. My son feels I am wrong to do this. But I can’t sit by and let him be represented by a public defender. I’m so conflicted has anybody been in the similar or same circumstance?

It’s painful. He was my first grandchild. And today is his 23rd birthday.