My husband’s brother just recently had a baby and we are both aunt and uncle. The baby is 3 weeks old and about 2 weeks after the baby was born we got the ok to travel about 6 hours away and stay overnight and see the baby. When the mother went to hand over the baby to me my husband was in the other room and I didn’t think twice about it because I didn’t think of it in terms of I’m not the aunt by blood only through marriage I didn’t think that mattered until my MIL piped up and said maybe you should let the blood uncle(meaning my husband) hold her first. I was so mortified and caught off guard and hurt that I was basically told I was second rate and there was a pecking order to importance of holding the baby.
Growing up I never saw my aunts and uncles as blood or married in they were just my aunt and uncle and I knew they loved me and I loved them.
Besides clearly my husband didn’t care as he was in a whole other room at the time and he’s a big boy and has a mouth he could have spoken up if it was an issue.
I just apologized and asked my husband if he wanted to hold the baby and he went ahead and did.
I’m hurt and embarrassed ughh.
What decade were your grandparents born?
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