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Nana56 Tue 16-Jan-24 10:09:40

My DGD is 17months old and is yet to walk. She cruises around furniture and she is a bum shuffler. My DD is concerned abs is due to see the health visitor soon.
I have read that bum shuffler can be late walkers. Any advice appreciated. Thank you for reading

Desdemona Tue 16-Jan-24 20:17:28

Nothing to worry about. Everyone reaches their milestones at a different rate.

M0nica Tue 16-Jan-24 22:09:51

If she is doing everything else right for her age, and she clearly doesn't lack mobility, then do not worry, one day she will simply get up and walk. DGD didn't walk until 16/17 months. Like another example, at 16 she is a talented dancer and excellent swimmer

NotTooOld Tue 16-Jan-24 22:15:34

My daughter did not walk until she was 18 months but she was a fantastic bum shuffler. Nothing to worry about.

pinkprincess Tue 16-Jan-24 23:13:52

My DS1 walked at 15 months while DS2 was 21 months before he pulled himself up and began walking.He was a fast crawler though, and could get what he wanted by pointing to it and crying until someone, usually his older brother got it for him.
I missed him taking his first steps though, as I had let both boys at my MIL's or a few hours.When I left him there he was still crawling, when I returned he was walking behind her at the front door!.When I expressed my joy and amazement she just casually said "Oh he has been walking all over the place here"
His two youngest children were , like him, late walkers.Both of them almost 2 years before taking their first steps.

Bluebell5 Wed 17-Jan-24 02:45:36

3 of mine were late walkers- the latest was 20 months, but they were all huge babies so had a lot of weight to support! They all were excellent talkers though, sentences and proper conversations with my daughter at 9 months! They all develop in their own time!

Whiff Wed 17-Jan-24 05:22:10

Nana children develop at different times. Don't you remember when your children where young? I well remember a health visitor fresh from uni worrying the life out of me because my daughter didn't talk until she was turned 2. But we always knew what she wanted and she had her own words for things. We ended up taking to speech therapy and there was nothing wrong. And the speech therapist said she was fed up with development charts. Children do want they want when they want.

Because my son was my 2nd child I can't remember him not talking the problem was getting him to shut up.

My grandsons where late walkers because they got everywhere faster crawling. Then they ran everywhere.

My son fell down the stairs in my old house twice. First time as a baby crawling my mom forgot to close the stair gate. Didn't know he had fallen down until we heard a cry. He was fine the doctor checked him over not even a bruise. 2nd time the little bugger climbed over the gate. Our then health visitor was matter of fact and said all 3 of her children had fallen down the stairs all of them climbed over the stair gate .

Neither of my children have ever had stair gates and my grandsons haven't fallen down the stairs.

All children are individuals even identical twins. Why is so much pressure still put on new parents I don't know . My children are 40 and 36 . You would think health visitors and the like would have the experience to realise this. And why oh why is there still this culture of parents still comparing their child to a friend's.

Just enjoy your child from when they are babies as they grow so fast and before you look around they are adults with children of their own.

luluaugust Fri 19-Jan-24 11:18:43

I was a bum shuffler and walked just before I was two. DD2 also the same, I took her to the GP and he said to me look at her legs, two good strong legs, she also walked around two

Dempie55 Fri 19-Jan-24 11:27:46

My son was a bum shuffler- showed no interest in furniture cruising or trying to walk. I started to worry when he was 19 months, but one day he just stood up and walked across the room! We made such a fuss of him he never bum shuffled again!

sazz1 Fri 19-Jan-24 11:49:43

My eldest was a very fast crawler so didn't walk until 19 months.

Jannipans Fri 19-Jan-24 11:52:47

My HV said that all children reach their milestones "when they are ready and in their own way"!
My daughters will be 40 and 42 this year and are happy, fit and healthy. The eldest walked at 9 months (and ran at 10! - nightmare!) but my youngest thinks everything through before doing them (- still does) so she didn't walk until over 12 months when she was sure she could do it properly (fewer bumps and bruises for me to deal with - result!).
Hope your GD is just being like my youngest and familiarising herself with her surroundings from a safe position before exploring on 2 feet.

WonderfulLife Fri 19-Jan-24 11:54:52

I think she may be find it easier and quicker to hold onto something. I know the feeling.

I would not worry, she will walk when she is ready.

Nannapat1 Fri 19-Jan-24 12:10:23

My DS walked at 18 months, one of my DDs not til nearly 3, due to hypermobility. DD has now been diagnosed with Ehlers Danlos Syndrome. My DGD didn't walk until 2, due to hypermobility and her parents spent a fortune on private aids which didn't really help. She's fine now, although her elbow 'pops out' from time to time but we've all learned to deal with it.
I don't think that not walking is considered to be a possible 'problem' until 18 months +.
I did have my main problem with my DD when people either called her lazy or suggested that I had done something to her! In the absence of certain conditions all children will walk eventually.

JdotJ Fri 19-Jan-24 12:26:32

My god daughter was a bum shuffler and didn't walk until she was 23 months.
Once she did, there was no stopping her

glammagran Fri 19-Jan-24 13:32:21

DGD1 was 21 months before she walked. She was the largest baby I’d ever seen and didn’t have the strength to heave herself up. DD1 was horrified as DGD1 had been exclusively breast fed for 6 months and has only ever drunk water (18 now). DD1 was fairly underweight and walked at 11 months. DGD1 went onto to be netball captain of her senior school and was heavily involved in athletics and all that weight melted away once she did walk.

LovesBach Fri 19-Jan-24 13:35:31

When I had my first child, two other neighbours also had babies - they were born within a few weeks of each other. My DC and the boy across the road crawled and walked in text book fashion; the other little boy just sat - he played happily with his toys on the floor, 'chatted' brightly as the others did, but made no attempt to move from his sitting position, and his mother became anxious. However, at a noisy family gathering he evidently hauled himself up, hanging on to the leg and skirt of an aunt, and made his first tentative efforts at walking, staggering between relatives oustretched hands as they all cheered him on. He had presumably felt that crawling was a pointless stage. Over the years observing the many babies in the family and among friends, we have realised that babies do things when they are ready, unless they have other obvious signs of a developmental delay.

Sarci Fri 19-Jan-24 14:02:51

I didn't walk until I was 2. I think babies go at their own speed.

LadyGracie Fri 19-Jan-24 14:08:05

My son was a bum shuffler, he eventually walked just before his second birthday.

Alison333 Fri 19-Jan-24 14:49:04

Unless there is anything else obviously wrong, don't worry! There's a huge range of 'normal.'

HiMay Fri 19-Jan-24 15:16:57

My son walked at 16 months. His son at 18. Both fine. I was concerned unnecessarily, and so were he and his wife.

grandtanteJE65 Fri 19-Jan-24 16:08:23

My younger niece shuffled around on her beam end too until she was eighteen months old - never crawled at all. Then one day she rose to her feet and started to walk.

Since then there has been no stopping her.

So don't worry - your lassie will walk when she wants to - you could suggest putting one or two of her favourite toys out of he reach unless she gets to her feet.

My godson dragged himself upright holding onto a chair suddenly one day because he wanted to stroke the cat lying on said chair so incentives do sometimes work.

Saggi Fri 19-Jan-24 16:16:13

My daughter was walking at 9 months and it drove me nuts because she didn’t have the understanding to go with it …so I was permanently following her around !
She was a full on job…..my son was a more normal 12 months ….a relief! You should not worry yet , until she’s had her check up ! My brother was over 2 before he walked .

Saggi Fri 19-Jan-24 16:18:04

….and I also think this is a ‘bum shuffling’ thingy…..both mine crawled …no bum shuffling.

Musicgirl Fri 19-Jan-24 16:20:08

I could never boast about my children’s walking, either. Son 1 was 18 months, son 2 was 15 months and my daughter was 16 months. Apparently, I was 17 months and my grandmother, who was still alive at the, told me that my mother was 17 months, too. Added to this, my mother-in-law told me my husband was 17 months, too. It really doesn’t matter - they all get there in the end. All my children had small feet and I wondered if that had an impact - especially my daughter, who was short, pump and still in 3-6 months pram shoes. As an adult, she is still fairly short, a size 6-8 and wears size 2 shoes.

Jan135 Fri 19-Jan-24 16:42:07

Yes I shuffled on my bum too and finally walked at 16 months

Maggiemaybe Fri 19-Jan-24 17:17:53

My little bum shuffler was nearly 2 before she decide to get to her feet. Her little sister was 17 months younger and I’d started to wonder which of them would walk first.