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Feeling rubbish! Help please.

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Cossy Sun 04-Feb-24 12:10:06

I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia several years ago, doctors think “triggered” by the birth of my last child just over 21 years ago. (I contracted a hospital infection, was isolated for 7 nights and on constant intravenous antibiotics). I worked throughout and retired in October 22, following the death of my mum in June of the same year.

I thought once I’d come to with her death, and that of my dad, a few years earlier, and adjusted to not working I’d be able to relax and enjoy my retirement.

Not to be, various adult child related issues later, I started to feel so fatigued, nauseas and unwell.

Finally I visited my GP earlier this year, only to be diagnosed with CFS/ME and Generalised Anxiety Disorder.

GP has been amazing and given me both support and practical help and I’m also having a homeopathic and nutritional assessment.

I’m feeling really low and weirdly a bit anger and bitter!

I know I should be grateful I’ve not got anything terminal, but I just feel so unwell every day and don’t sleep well.

Dear Gransnetters, any advice gratefully received please. Anyone else here with these conditions?

I’m trying to “get a grip” and “pull myself together” as this is normally how I deal with my own stresses, but failing currently.

Cossy Tue 06-Feb-24 18:30:14

FranP

Thanks for support and advice.

I have a video PIP assessment on Friday 😱😱😱 It’s my second “attempt” as I tried 1 year ago and scored zero and sadly the assessor clearly did not listen as full of inaccuracies - I should have requested a Mandatory Reconsideration, then gone into full appeal (used to work for DWP!), but I just felt too tired and weary to go to war!

MrsDally Tue 06-Feb-24 18:52:20

Cossy

FranP

Thanks for support and advice.

I have a video PIP assessment on Friday 😱😱😱 It’s my second “attempt” as I tried 1 year ago and scored zero and sadly the assessor clearly did not listen as full of inaccuracies - I should have requested a Mandatory Reconsideration, then gone into full appeal (used to work for DWP!), but I just felt too tired and weary to go to war!

I was awarded PIP this year but you have to try and get across how absolutely debilitating this is for you. I had a telephone assessment too. I think what might have swayed it was I broke down and started crying when I told him my grandson keeps asking me to go on holiday with him but I can't go as even the journey would be too taxing. It depends on who the assessor is too. Good luck

Cossy Tue 06-Feb-24 20:21:24

MrsDally

Thank you ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

62dg Thu 08-Feb-24 08:19:34

I have had m.e. For 37 years housebound and bedbound for 36 of those years. I have recently become a lot better due to many many things to in-depth to mention here. If you think I could help in any way. Message me. With good wishes Diane xx

MissAdventure Thu 08-Feb-24 08:49:14

Would you consider making a thread about it, please?
It would be really helpful to a good few of us.

nadateturbe Thu 08-Feb-24 09:19:03

62dg I suffer badly with M.E. Spend a lot of time lying down Perhaps you could tell us some things that helped, even briefly. I know we are all different and don't respond the same, but there might be something that others could try. My worst symptom is a severe shortage of energy, like tiny battery capacity. iykwim.

nadateturbe Sat 20-Jul-24 13:12:01

www.facebook.com/share/p/KugMpAq1a2TXYV5y/

nadateturbe Sat 20-Jul-24 13:14:47

The above is a link to an article about Sajid Javid's work on M.E. I hope Labour continue and prioritise this research. It's such a debilitating, life limiting illness.

choughdancer Sat 20-Jul-24 17:36:53

nadateturbe

The above is a link to an article about Sajid Javid's work on M.E. I hope Labour continue and prioritise this research. It's such a debilitating, life limiting illness.

It is indeed nadateturbe. And can be so misunderstood as a previous poster showed. I have been told outright by a couple of (non-medical) people that I haven't got ME/CFS! It seems to vary so much between people too.

I feel lucky that I can do 'normal' things using strong coffee as a sort of drug. That way I can volunteer in a charity shop once a week, do things during the daytime, run a sort of Airbnb type business, and dance every week. When I'm out doing these things no-one would guess I have ME/CFS, but what they don't see is what happens when I'm home, especially after doing something very active.

I'm also different from a friend who describes it as feeling like a lead coating on all her limbs. For me it feels like a lead coating too, but over my head; a physical feeling that brings me crashing down. I rest and sleep a lot when I'm home, and often when I've been out I literally fall into bed, still dressed and teeth uncleaned! Fortunately I live on my own; I simply could not cope with having anyone living with me and it would be intolerable for them.

When I was diagnosed (over 20 years ago), I was told that it probably had an auto-immune cause, especially as I also have Type 1 diabetes which is also an auto-immune condition. My friend goes down with colds and coughs all the time, but I don't ever seem to get them. Instead, I just feel more exhausted when they are going around, which is presumably my overactive immune system overdoing it again!

I can't push the coffee thing for too long though, just for a day or so, or an evening if I have to, but I find evenings really difficult, as I'm unable to get to sleep because of the caffeine!

I bet everyone on this thread who has ME/CFS will be affected in a different way; one day they may find that it is several different conditions.

choughdancer Sat 20-Jul-24 19:59:43

Hope you are coping okay Cossy, and not feeling quite so awful as you were.flowers