Too young for Alcohol?

Yes indeed their rules do noot interfere.

Sounds like good parenting to me...

MissAdventure

The original op refers to the grandson being given lager.
Alcohol is alcohol, is alcohol, surely?

Actually not really Miss Adventure, alcohol come in lots of various strength fro None alcohol to 80% and loads of variations in between. A low alcohol lager at 5% is harmless but still considered alcohol in law. an 80% Rum is extremely potent and will knock the head off most people as you can imagine., Even lager is available in loads of various strength from 0% to around 8.5%. This is where drink/drivers often come unstuck as they do not realise the quantity of alcohol they are consuming.

Seriously I would tell them in no uncertain terms to pack it in they have no right to buy him alcohol without your permission

Could be worse they could be buying him lager

Probably larger amounts now?

Another old thread- GC in question is almost 17 now. Wonder if he's still only drinking 'larger?'

The original op refers to the grandson being given lager.
Alcohol is alcohol, is alcohol, surely?

Could be worse they could be buying him lager

Mojack26

It is allowed with a meal age 14 or over

Incorrect I am afraid you have to be 16 or 17 now.
Someone aged 16 or 17 and accompanied by an adult, can drink (but not buy) beer, wine or cider with a meal at a licensed premises (except in Northern Ireland).

hazelnuts

There is a great deal of evidence and there was an article In Sunday Times a few months ago on the detrimental affect alcohol has on teenage brains . Sorry unable to find article now but if you google alcohol and teenage brains it will bring up the information.
Obviously the parents are in charge but they may not know about this research, diplomacy essential if after reading you think they should be aware.

Caffeine is even worse though apparently all these drinks like red bull and energy drinks which are high in caffeine are very dangerous to the young brain.

one bottle of week lager is harmless very low percentage and can legally be enjoyed in a restaurant from the age of 16 but not purchased. It has to be purchased by an adult. The football game is another issue it should not be purchased for him there.

Did pubs have two bars?
One that allowed children in, and one where it was over 18s only?

I can remember the times when kids were not allowed in pubs - just pub gardens
nowadays children of all ages are allowed in pubs . It is the new normal
supermarkets sell alcohol - not the off licence's when I was a kid
so once pandora's box has been opened you can't close it
At least the child is supervised

I'm a perfectly nice kid who lives on a council estate, Madmeg.
So, nothing at all nasty meant, I was just wondering if people would find it responsible if it was dad and son sharing a few cans of lager, on a council estate.

I feel it is a sensible way to introduce alcohol , they will feel the effects with no harm. For some their first time with alcohol is half a bottle of vodka in a park, very dangerous.

It is allowed with a meal age 14 or over

I was brought up in a family that frowned upon alcohol. Every Christmas my nana mother and my auntie would drink ginger wine thinking it was a herbal drink. It was only years later when my elderly mother wanted me to buy her a bottle each week that I told her it was the same potency of a normal bottle of wine! Ps....I'm not like my family as l like alcohol!

Smileless2012

Perhaps they prefer him to have a larger when he's with them so he wont feel the need to drink with friends when his parents aren't around DollyD.

I'm glad you've bitten your tongue as this is between your D, s.i.l. and their son.

It’s op’s son not her dsil

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I have to say, that we always did this with our son so that he could do it in a safe environment and it wouldn't feel like an exciting forbidden fruit that he would have to sneak about and get behind our backs.I think they are trying to treat him as a young adult and teaching him to be responsible with drink.As long as they are not plying him with booze and buying him drink after drink, I don't see anything wrong.

Not a problem for me, I think the parents are acting responsibly by allowing him a drink while under their 'supervision'. They are getting him used to having a drink with a meal, far better he has had first taste of alcohol with responsible adults in an open way rather than secretly with friends.

My parents gave me my first drink of wine on my 16th birthday saying we prefer you to have a drink in the house rather than in secret (my dad was tee total !). I think this was a brilliant thing to do, as I wasn’t at all impressed by alcohol and to this day only ever have an occasional glass of wine

Georgesgran

Perhaps you should start a new thread FranA.
This thread from February last year is more about adults giving children alcohol, whereas you seem to have made that decision yourself.

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This actually made me think of a family I know who had four kids. First two were brought up not been able to have alcohol at all until they hit 18, the second two were allowed it with a meal and special events from 16. The oldest ended up in hospital on his 18th birthday because he drank himself to oblivion, he became an alcoholic and died in his 30's the second started at 18 and just never stopped. Became a Binge drinker by 19 and is now homeless due to the drink issues he has. The younger two however really don't care a lot about drinking, will have the odd one socially but aren't too fussed if they go without. They know when to stop and they are both in high flying jobs. Id be devastated if I stopped my son exploring in safety. I'd rather buy him drink so he knows what is in it and make sure he doesn't overdo it when he tries it then wait for him to think he's missing something and get so drunk it makes him ill or he develops an addiction.

As long as he's at home with his parents, he can drink alcohol from the age of 5, believe it or not. Not sure about being out fishing, though, as that's a public place. Even then, I think the law covers buying, selling or providing alcohol to a minor, so I guess his parents would be the ones carrying the can even if the police decided to prosecute.
This is really a matter for his parents, unless you're his legal guardian. You may think it's unwise to introduce a child to alcohol (I certainly do - he'll have enough temptations presented to him by his peers without his parents joining in) - but it really isn't up to you. It's up to them.