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tanith Mon 06-May-24 19:36:45

It struck me today that I’ve never danced with my son as an adult how sad is that. We aren’t a family for parties and there haven’t been many weddings etc, and he moved abroad 15yrs ago a long partnership but no wedding. It’s made me feel very sad.
Do you have one regret?

Sssd Mon 06-May-24 19:40:31

Ive never danced with any of my family. I dont regret it at all.

Cossy Mon 06-May-24 19:47:36

I danced with my children whilst they were all children and with my dear departed Dad. I have no regrets about dancing.

If I had regrets, and I try not too as a bit pointless, it would be not working harder at school and some poor career choices and not visiting my dear parents as often as I could have done. (I did go at least weekly, most of their lives and they did live quite near to me)

petra Mon 06-May-24 20:00:04

Me and my daughter always end up dancing at family get togethers.
We have parties with our neighbours particularly in the summer. Me and my next door neighbour start the dancing and then they all join in. 💃.

flappergirl Mon 06-May-24 20:07:22

I've never danced with my adult son. Is this a particular tradition?

I have a several regrets (which don't dominate my life) but they all affected the course of my life and where I am today.

Mancjules Mon 06-May-24 22:21:42

I have been to gigs and concerts and have danced the night away with my sons!

BigBertha1 Tue 07-May-24 08:26:40

Regrets? I've had a few but then again..........

Redhead56 Tue 07-May-24 08:33:17

At rare family parties years ago I danced with my family so no regrets about that.

Granniesunite Tue 07-May-24 08:44:02

My one regret tanith is not saying what I really think! One day I’ll remedy this.

Ailidh Tue 07-May-24 08:55:13

BigBertha1

Regrets? I've had a few but then again..........

Me too! :D

There are things I wish I'd done, mostly in the self-expression/self-worth area of my life, but I don't really regret them, they've made me who I am, and I rather like me.

biglouis Tue 07-May-24 09:01:28

There are many things I regret, usually done in the heat of the moment or when I was being ruled by my passions or emotions. The things I have done with my "business" head on I dont regret. Nowadays my head rules, never my heart.

Calendargirl Tue 07-May-24 09:02:25

I went to a friend’s second wedding, when she was in her 50’s, and she was swung around by her adult son in one of the dances.

I mentioned this later to my DIL. Said “I can’t imagine (my DS, her husband) dancing with me like that”.

She replied”Only if he were very drunk!”.

That just about summed it up.

Think I had to have a dance with SIL at my DD’s wedding, but not comfortable with dancing, with anyone really.

tanith Tue 07-May-24 09:07:20

I’ve enjoyed reading your replies thanks, I think I was feeling sorry for myself yesterday after spending the whole weekend on my own family all busy doing their thing lol.

GrannyGravy13 Tue 07-May-24 10:00:43

Have been to several Balls with DH and AS’s along with their wives/partners so I have danced formally with all of them.

Grammaretto Tue 07-May-24 11:57:14

Je ne regret rien.
One of the advantages of being older is that memories fade.

I am desperately trying to think if we danced at their weddings. I definitely danced with my sister at DD's wedding ceilidh.

NanaTuesday Thu 27-Jun-24 15:59:59

Mancjules

I have been to gigs and concerts and have danced the night away with my sons!

Mancjules
Reading the op , I though that no I hadn’t , but I have been to Concerts with all 3 of my adult children & like you danced with them which is a joy x

Floradora9 Thu 27-Jun-24 22:01:39

Grammaretto

Je ne regret rien.
One of the advantages of being older is that memories fade.

I am desperately trying to think if we danced at their weddings. I definitely danced with my sister at DD's wedding ceilidh.

I am older but memories are just as vivid now as they have always been . My mother always said that I had been a good daughter but there are things I so regret not doing for her.

Skydancer Thu 27-Jun-24 22:47:53

Is this about regrets or just about dancing?

NfkDumpling Thu 27-Jun-24 23:13:56

I regret not writing down exactly what my parents and grandparents did when young. What they did during the wars. How they met. I didn't listen enough and got muddled about the snippets they told me.

For my own life, I have no regrets, apart from my husband's death. Too soon. No others that I can think of right now. Bad things happened of course, but then that meant that other, good things, did. Fate has, on the whole, been good to me. And I've never been good at dancing, but that's not high on my list.

BlueBelle Thu 27-Jun-24 23:20:56

I ve never danced with my son either Tanith
Should we have though?
Regrets too many to name

crazyH Thu 27-Jun-24 23:29:59

I’ve texted my 2 sons to ask if they would dance with me - no reply, stony silence. I’m sure they thought it’s early signs of dementia 😂 and are talking about it 😂

V3ra Fri 28-Jun-24 07:23:48

www.facebook.com/share/r/4TDgMmZjuhcjBrZf/

My daughter posted this when we were all discussing the plans for my son and daughter-in-law's recent wedding reception 💃🕺

tanith Fri 28-Jun-24 07:33:21

crazyH they probably are 🤣

Crossstitchfan Fri 28-Jun-24 19:48:25

That made me laugh!

Oreo Fri 28-Jun-24 21:51:56

BigBertha1

Regrets? I've had a few but then again..........

Too few to mention?😁
I have many regrets and too late now to put things right but guess this is all part of the human condition and what sets us apart from other intelligent animals.
Youth is a thoughtless time.
I’ve never danced with any member of my family, didn’t know this was a ‘thing’?It sure isn’t one of my regrets.