One regret!

To quote Oreo I’ve never danced with any member of my family, didn’t know this was a ‘thing’?It sure isn’t one of my regrets.

Saves me composing exactly the same message!

Show me someone with no regrets and I will not believe them.

If I asked my children if they wanted to dance with me……they would be phoning the doctor..(good luck with that).

Although I do have a few regrets…there’s no point is there….the past can’t be changed, make the most of the time we have left, we are still here…many of the people we have loved are not, that makes me sad.

What is regret? An unpleasant emotion that we call upon at different times in our lives? A sorrowful feeling about our past behavior? A wish that we had today's wisdom yesterday? A dream about how our life would have been better if we had done better? How does regret (ie. going backwards in time) help us in our journey forward? If we can forgive our humanness, can regret evaporate?

Regrets are futile. It never occurred to me to want to dance with my sons. I've been to DS1's two weddings and didn't dance with him at either, though at the first, I remember dancing with my sister - Dancing Queen and Rock Around the Clock (and a glass or two of champagne) got us to our feet.

Macadia

What is regret? An unpleasant emotion that we call upon at different times in our lives? A sorrowful feeling about our past behavior? A wish that we had today's wisdom yesterday? A dream about how our life would have been better if we had done better? How does regret (ie. going backwards in time) help us in our journey forward? If we can forgive our humanness, can regret evaporate?

Good heavens, this is getting rather deep. I am not sure any of my regrets reach this deeply philosophical level, Certainly they do not involve any of the dramas this post involves.

Mine mainly involve opportunities not taken or which did not materialise and I do not waste much time dwelling on them. Whose life is a perfect in its process. We remember the happy time and we remember when the times and events that didn't work out, with an element of regret. Thats life!

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Yes, that is life! I used to wallow in regret, but now that I'm older, I see how pointless that is. In fact, I can laugh at regret, seeing how silly I was. I believe that everything just happens as it should, not how we want to make it happen and I take each day with gratitude and curiosity.

Like NfkD life has been kind to me after a rocky start. I regret that my DH died and I miss him very much but we have no control over these things.

No regrets.
I danced with DS on his wedding day, not a sedate waltz, it was Dixey music.

NfkDumpling

I regret not writing down exactly what my parents and grandparents did when young. What they did during the wars. How they met. I didn't listen enough and got muddled about the snippets they told me.

For my own life, I have no regrets, apart from my husband's death. Too soon. No others that I can think of right now. Bad things happened of course, but then that meant that other, good things, did. Fate has, on the whole, been good to me. And I've never been good at dancing, but that's not high on my list.

I could have written your post! I know my grandmother was a bit ahead of her time but have no real record of that. I have made a point of telling my daughters as much as I can about me and their dad’s lives. Wish my mum had done that with me, but I can’t remember her saying much at all about the past. Most of what I know about my grandparents came from neighbours.

Sorry, my reply above somehow got on here by mistake! Have no idea what I did to cause that! Oops!

Crossstitchfan

Sorry, my reply above somehow got on here by mistake! Have no idea what I did to cause that! Oops!

Oh lord, I get worse! My reply wasn’t on the wrong thread at all! I think I’d better be quiet now!!

Maybe it was meant for the Grandparents thread Crosstitchfan in which case you are on the wrong thread😂

I don’t do social dancing of any sort, not since I had to go to formal dances at university. I loved doing ballet (a long time ago), but social dancing has always struck me as rather silly. If I want to get to know someone I talk to them. The thought of dancing with my sons is bizarre, and certainly not a matter for regret.

I regret not having a daughter, but that’s not something I could have done anything about.

I regret not taking my cat to the vet earlier, when he was obviously ill. This was twenty or more years ago. I still feel guilty.

I remember not long after we moved to our house, which was in the countryside, putting Bryan Adams "Summer of 69" on the CD player, turning the volume up loud and dancing round the upstairs sitting room with my two sons. They were probably 8 and 9 at the time. The younger one ended up dancing on the coffee table, holding my hands. I remember feeling so unbeliebably happy. I didn't realise our new neighbour was walking his dog in the fields across from the house and could clearly see us from the balcony windows!
Don't recall dancing with them again. The younger one had a covid wedding so no reception, the older one isn't married and haven't attended any functions with either of them.
My one regret is the night before my LH died I looked at him and felt an urge to tell him how much I loved him but dismissed it and told myself I would say it the next day. Sadly he died from a massive heart attack the next morning. He was only in his early fifties. So I never got to tell him.