Asking for lodger to leave

Years ago, when DH and I were young and strong, we let a room to another young couple. It became clear that they were getting into serious debt, having filled their room to bursting point with all sorts of purchases. There were debt collectors at the door too often. They refused to leave. Eventually DH found out that they were taking power from the lamps (they had a meter for power but not for light) and called the police and the couple had to leave. It was a horrible experience.
Our own credit rating dropped through the floor and took ages to clear up.
After that, we let the room to the lovely girlfriend of DH's nephew, who had come to live with us. (They are now grandparents themselves. )

I think you should ask age Uk for some advice. The lodger sounds a right pain in the bum. Sounds a bit of a bully! Wishing you lots of luck and hoping you settle into the new home and are very happy and can put this all behind you soon enough! I wouldn’t actually touch his things though. I’d speak advice and take from there

Get advice not speak advice

Oh how horrible for you! I know someone who hired a security guard for a confrontation (not the same, but similar position of vulnerable woman needing a bit of 'muscle' for her rights). It cost £1k, which I know is a lot, but it may be a thought?

I’d be interested to know just where his friend will be sleeping if he still has plans to come. Do you have a bed in your spare room that your lodger plans to let him stay even though you’ve said no.
Do you have a relative that could stay in that room for a while, or at least move the bed from out of there.
I have visions of you ending up with two bullying lodgers that you’ll have trouble getting rid of.

Totally agree!

Goodness - what a worrying situation. I can offer no advice, but hope that things reach a swift resolution.
Best wishes to you.

I would have said I don’t need to give you a reason. You’re the lounger not my husband. I’m asking you to leave end of. If it’s a council don’t know arrangement I would get a locksmith out and put his stuff on front door. He doesn’t sound type that will walk away quietly you might need some back up. Go to local pub and ask the bouncer if you give them some cash will they help you.

NfkDumpling

It sounds to me like a coercive relationship. You need professional legal help. Maybe the CAB or Age Concern can advise in the first instance.

Agree with this^^. Also, see if someone from the Elderly Care Team at the Local Council can visit you, when you know the lodger will be out, and explain everything and ask them to help you.

You need to get legal help, but if you haven't already you need to serve a proper eviction notice. To tell what type of eviction notice you need you'll have to look at the tenancy type you have him. You can't just assume you have the right to evcit him if he pays rent he has rights I'm afraid and you could end up in serious trouble if tis done incorrectly.

You do not need to serve eviction notice to lodger. He's being difficult, tell him to go by the end of the week. Change the locks, return his stuff. If he gives you hassle call the police.
I'd actually change the locks next time he's out and leave his stuff somewhere safe for him to collect.
england.shelter.org.uk/housing_advice/eviction/eviction_of_lodgers_and_other_excluded_occupiers

biglouis is right. He needs a punch

Hey, I didnt say punch anyone. That can get you into trouble!

Just having one or two men around can usually do the trick. They dont have to be big but it probably helps.

You just need a few phrases like "Im sure you dont want any trouble but XXX"

"My grandmother has given you notice so we thought you might need a hand packing."

he is a lodger, not a tenant.
OP doesn't need legal advice, she needs support.
contact police.
mention of moving someone else in could be seen as threatening, he may be planning to oust you, by making your life unbearable there, a cuckooing operation.
such things often happen to vulnerable occupiers.

My friend had a man who would not leave. She gave him notice and the police came round on the day to see that he left.

personally I think 28 days is too short notice as many new landlords want time to check references.

I would echo the advice to speak to a solicitor or to the CAB

There is no need for legal advice or to trouble the CAB. If the lodger pays his ‘rent’ every four weeks that is a perfectly adequate notice period. If he pays weekly it is longer than necessary. How long he might need to get references checked for a new abode is irrelevant. He is a lodger, not a tenant.

Hi sorry to get back late ive been in hospital for 10 days however I had 2 of my nephews staying at mine while in hospital they got rid of him before I got back i won't be getting anymore lodgers but will be moving to a sheltered accommodation in October which will be a blessing.thankyou all for your help and advice very much appreciated it's a Wight lifted off my shoulders xx

I think if you went to the police and explained your position they would definitely help someone in your position who wants to move to a home to cater for your disability and who is at the moment being bullied by the lodger. I do n ot think they would dare refuse to help in case something happened to you.

Thank goodness Regina, your plight has been on my mind. I am so glad to hear of the resolution and of your plans for the future.
I wish you many happy times in your new place.

Just seen this last posting of yours. Thank goodness and I am glad you have got it sorted. Thank god for male relatives.

Great news Regina!
Now just get well.

Brilliant outcome! Get well soon.

So pleased

Yippee !!!

Fab news. Good riddance. Glad everything worked out for you in the end.
Same old same old though, the ones that bully a woman draw the line at treating males with the same level of contempt… funny that!