Funeral wear help please.

Sounds perfect- the main thing is that you are comfortable in it, emotionally as well as practically.

Thank you all for your lovely comments and suggestions.

Currently, I intend to wear black linen trousers with a longish cream shirt with a pink necklace.

Unless it's colder - then I will wear a pale pink linen jacket and a cream t shirt.

And take a mac and umbrella.

When my sister in law died, every one wore black, when my husband died as well as family there were a lot of old work colleagues and they all had dark suits and black ties. Even our grandchildren decided to wear black. I have ‘funeral clothes’ black skirt, black top, black coat in winter, black jacket in summer. Most people where I live seem to do the same. Really it’s what you feel comfortable wearing.

No dress code? Do wear something decorous, nowt flashy.

If you know what his favourite colour was a simple top in that, if you don't cream is stylish and not glaringly in your face...

I would wear something bright and cheerful. For my Godmother's winter funeral I wore my favourite red coat with a burgundy dress. All the ladies, except her niece, wore bright colours to reflect the happy lady we were saying goodbye to. The men wore the usual suit but wore bright coloured ties, and one wore an amazing, colourful patterned shirt.
Wear what you feel comfortable in.

A white linen shirt

kittylester

We have been told that there is no dress 'code' and it is more about recalling a happy life than mourning his death.

As they said it's about recalling a happy life. I would wear something colorful and that you are comfortable in.

For a summer funeral on a hot day, I'd wear one of my more formal summer dresses, in a classic style with smart shoes. I'd take a plain wrap, cardigan or jacket and wear some of my smaller, more formal pieces of jewellery. I'd keep the dress colour fairly plain and the style fit and flare or body skimming (not tight). I'd aim for formal simplicity.

If you're not a dress person, then smarter, work-style trousers in black or navy would be appropriate. I'd wear them with a slightly dressy, long sleeved blouse in a subdued colour and small heels. I'd keep hair and makeup simple and subdued too. It's all about honouring the deceased and showing respect to the family. You want to make an effort but not stand out.

I always wear black for funerals unless told otherwise. can’t go wrong

I would chose any dark self-coloured skirt with a white or cream sgurt blouse.

Perhaps best to avoid black when the relatives specify a celebration of a life rather than grieving mourners

A 70-something friend of mine wore a red mini-dress and 5-inch heels to be buried in and requested as many others as possible wear similar the same. Sadly not many of us could manage the heels and some wore "flower power" skirts, but it was fun, which is what she had wanted.

Any top you will feel cool and comfortable in …sorry for your loss xx

We were requested to wear some purple at one of my friends funeral it was her favourite colour, her purple sparkly coffin was her to a tee a lovely funny lady .

For My sisters funeral I wore a brightly coloured floral dress because She loved flowers 🌸🌸🌸

I don't think that we have to wear black unless requested to do so .
Up until the World War 1 -there were massive shops which only sold funeral wear .
It was so strict and inflexible .
When WW1 came - the rules began to relax .
My Grandma remembers being almost permanently in mourning as a child .
And the ritual of wearing grey then mauve...
She also remembered sewing a black ribbon border on her baby brother's shawls .

I went to a funeral a couple of years ago and was asked to wear a brightly coloured floral dress .
The deceased was a lovely lady , who adored flowers .
One mourner bought a new dress for the funeral and thought that it was a wonderful idea .

I would wear what I have and like .

Something simple like a white top or blouse with the black linen trousers would be fine for the funeral.

A classic cream blouse with navy skirt or trousers will be fine. It is rare for funerals today to require mourners to wear black from head to foot.

Why black? It's no dress code funeral.

So sorry about your loss.

I would focus on comfort in this hot weather, probably wear a long linen dress in navy with easily removeable jacket or shrug.

I generally wear black fitted smart trousers and a silk round neck short sleeve top with black jacket black sandals. Sadly some don’t seem to bother too much what they wear flip flops jeans etc . I’ve seen it all.

I'm going to a big high-profile funeral tomorrow. The family says there is no dress code. But I do want to be respectful; it's not a fashion parade.
I shall wear a pair of black linen trousers with a cream-coloured cardigan jacket which has some coloured applique elements. I think it will be too hot for a proper jacket.

Freshair

In my opinion, people should dress in formal wear at a funeral. A sense if occasion, mark of respect should be reflected in what you wear. It's a solemn occasion. There is a common theme of asking people to dress in bright colours nowadays - where on earth has this come from?

Times change and fashion and customs change. In the late 1800s, you dressed in black for years, even for distant relations. In my childhood men wore a black armband to mark a close bereavement, often for months.

In the 21st century we do things differently, not better, not worse, just differently. Marking grief by dressing in black is no longer necessary, it is optional. I would also question why a funeral should be seen as a somen occasion.

A funeral is undoubtedly a sad occasion. Someone who those present have loved, or been fond or had them in their life in some benevolent way, such that their death causes them regret. and they wish to present at that final event that marks the end of their life.

But afterwards, most funeral's end with what we now call a Wake, a gathering at a local pub or restaurant for refreshments when we start to remember and talk about the deceased, remember them in their glory and laugh at shared memories.

This is the modern interpretation of funerals and after. As I said, not better, not worse but what best accords with the people we are now and the society we live in.

I think so Calli.

Freshair

In my opinion, people should dress in formal wear at a funeral. A sense if occasion, mark of respect should be reflected in what you wear. It's a solemn occasion. There is a common theme of asking people to dress in bright colours nowadays - where on earth has this come from?

If the deceased or family request that mourners wear something ther than black, should we not respect that?