Do you find it difficult to ‘treat’ yourself?

Like most on here I can spend freely on family and find myself incapable of buying anything for myself unless it’s reduced! I made a resolution that I shall only eat what I want( DH does most of the shopping and loves fish. I hate fish) I’ve moved on to buying myself on line admittedly something I’ve thought was lovely,every few months regardless of cost. I can afford it having always been a saver. I’ve now decided to buy myself flowers every week( kitty lester you inspired me with your thread about florists) we had a wedding anniversary last week. Only two cards and it’s over 50 years. A bunch of flowers would have been appreciated but zilch.

After raising my own family, I had to start all over again raising my grandaughterand spent the next 20+ years doing so, still helping her, and also treats for my youngest grandaughter ( different parents).

Now is my time, I dont go on expensive holidays as something I have never been able to afford all my life, I live alone so if I see a nice outfit and my family are all ok I will buy it, I have my nails done every 3 weeks and a lovely cheap as chips £9 dry cut for my silver hair every 3 weeks.

I am not an extravagant, person live within my means, so no I dont feel guilty, it makes me a happier person and gives quality to my life.

Books are also big part if my spending ,I couldnt function without a book to hand and they would be the very last thing I would forego.

I do find it difficult spending on myself. Never think twice about spending on daughter, grandchildren though. Why is that? I've no idea, just don't like watching my bank balance going down if unnecessary. Always think I'm just not worth the spend. I get a lovely feeling spending on others but just not on myself. That said we have a good bank balance (I think) and I know I can't take it with me, the house itself is worth a lot of money which will be left to our only daughter BUT I still just can't spend on myself. My own mum was the same but she certainly didn't have the disposable income we have. I need a kick up the you know what I think.

I came from a very deprived family, where life was a constant struggle, compounded by mu father's chronic ill health. There were no treats for anyone.

I believed having a good education would help improve my life.
Throughout my career, I continued to study and work hard, to provide the life I never had. It meant that my children never suffered the way I did.
When they were still at home, my priority was them. I rarely treated myself and if I did, I felt guilty.
They are now all earning good salaries, but I do still treat them.

However, my chronic il health means that I can no longer go on holiday abroad or do many of the things we had planned to do. Little treats nake life more tolerable.

As someone said, we can’t take it with us! OH has two quite expensive hobbies - bee keeping and target shooting. I’m hoping to buy a new car soon - once I’ve decided which one!

When the children were small and I was a stay at home mum for 9 years, treats were very few, but now it’s good to be able to treat ourselves and not feel guilty.

I find it difficult. I think it’s to do with my mum being very frugal. I had everything I needed and more being an only one but money was king, both my parents loved saving.
We save a small amount each month, but I still struggle spending the rest. My family don't have the same problem the money they spend on holidays and meals out makes my hair curl !

Yes I always have and always will.
I don’t need to anymore but old habits die hard and I find it very hard to really indulge.

GrannyGravy13

Marydoll I wouldn’t expect anything less from you 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

Absolutely GG, but I never made TKMaxx.😭

No, I love spending money on myself. I ensure I give the legal amount of money allowed to our family each month by standing order as I prefer them to have it now instead of when I die. I treat them with meals out and treat our grandchildren as well. They take care of me by doing odd jobs for me and taking me out for the day so when I do go out, I buy myself jewellery, clothes, afternoon tea and have my nails done.

Years ago with a young family I could not afford to treat myself.
Nowadays, I do treat myself. If I can afford it , I’ll have it.

That's a No from me too.

Marydoll I wouldn’t expect anything less from you 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

I used to feel guilty. However, now that it is only DH and I at home, I have no problem. Having worked hard, it is my money to do what I like with.

We have been on holiday this weekend in Edinburgh and I have certainly treated my self!😉

We've always been overly cautious with the "big" spends (moving house, buying a much needed small car etc.) but I have learnt later in life that I can't take it with me! So small treats are my way of rewarding myself - and why not, if I can afford it and it doesn't harm anyone else? I've just bought myself some embroidery threads to use on my sewing machine, last of the big spenders

I used to but not any more.

When we were saving for a deposit for a house, when we had children then yes.

Not now, though.
Life is just a bowl of cherries 🍒

Enjoy the cake, ignore the guilt, Casdon
Just eat a lettuce leaf or two for dinner.

No, I don’t feel guilty at all, I love treating myself. I often feel guilty afterwards if the treat was a cake though.

Never been a problem. It is the small treats in life that make life worthwhile.

No, never.

FlexibleFriend

No and I tend to think bigger than a tub of cherries.

😂
So do I but my money is more cherry sized.

Absolutely not (anymore!)

No!

No, I find it quite easy!

No and I tend to think bigger than a tub of cherries.

If it’s my money I am spending on me I have no reason to justify treating myself.