My friend drains me

Is she able to get out?
Can she swallow OK?

People who are draining are less so in new surroundings where you can see other people/things.

I know. I have a kind friend who I'm fond of but who is exhausting.
Best in small doses at stately homes, cafés, garden centres or parks.

Book a visit in occasionally - not as often as once a month!!!

My friend immediately widens the conversation outside of her home.

Thank you! I do see a lot of her currently but reducing our meetings and doing something nice is a good idea. Maybe a nice meal in our favourite restaurant. In the meantime, I can make a point of keeping in touch by messaging her.

Tuiam makes some good points, which I agree with.

If you see a lot of her, tactfully reduce the time you spend with her.

P.S. I have a neighbour like this who still talks about the war and her father being in the First World War and it is her only subject, I take her out every few months to keep in touch but also because she does not get out much now. I put it down to my good deed for the day - and yes - it is virtue signalling on my part, but then again better to be kind than not bother at all.

I think a lot will depend on how often you see her and also your age. If you are a fighting fit ? year old and see her everyday then it will be draining. If however, you only see her once a month, then a nice visit to a tea room or garden centre cafe keeping it down to an hour/hour and a half, and listen to her with care, then you are keeping her in your life and also being kind to her. For me, it would depend on how much for how long.