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NanKate Tue 10-Sept-24 11:13:31

I have two DGSs 13 and a half and 11 and a half.

I spoke to my DS and elder DGS this morning on FaceTime. I have always been close my oldest grandson as he was a tricky child in his first few years having tantrums etc but he grew out of that into a nice lad.

He and his dad FaceTimed me from the dentists where he was having advice on a tooth brace. He didn’t seem to be particularly keen to speak, he answered my questions but it was all very bland and downbeat. I wonder if this is how some teenagers become.

I do realise he is growing up and doesn’t need me so much but I felt sad.

Finally his younger brother has health problems and he gets a lot of attention which could contribute to his manner.

Do you have knowledge of teenagers ?

Gran32 Sun 22-Sept-24 19:09:21

My 12 year old granddaughter isn't as engaged with us anymore. She comes in says hello and that's it. She's on her phone which drives me mental! My 17 year old grandson went through that stage but has changed again and you can have a great conversation with him. Hoping DGD does the same. Teenagers are tricky! Good lucksmile

NanKate Mon 23-Sept-24 17:17:23

Thank you Gran32 that makes me feel better. I am seeing the boys on Sunday so fingers crossed we have some lively conversation.

Allira Mon 23-Sept-24 17:27:11

Smileless2012

Does anyone remember Harry Enfield's 'Kevin'? I particularly liked the sketch when he becomes a teenager. The night before he's talking normally but when he comes down on the morning of his 13th birthday, all he does is grunt!!!

Yes!

They go into a tunnel at about 12 and come out at some time later, possibly not until about 19.

Two of ours have emerged at 16 and are lovely again, another has just gone in.

Allira Mon 23-Sept-24 17:31:21

MissAdventure

My boy spends a lot of time at his girlfriend's house where apparently he is loved for being such a kind and helpful person.. shock

Amazing, isn't it.
I found other parents said how polite and helpful my DC were at their houses.
As were their children when they came here.

Going back to Kevin the Teenager and his friend Perry:
Kevin: Kevin is rude to his parents, but polite to Perry's parents. He's often complaining and refusing to do what his parents tell him.
Perry: Perry is polite to Kevin's parents, but rude to his own

MissAdventure Mon 23-Sept-24 17:52:39

"Thank you Mrs. Patterson". grin

annodomini Mon 23-Sept-24 18:40:48

My youngest DGS, now almost 17, used to be quite reserved and monosyllabic, spending most of his time in his bedroom, immersed in video games. Now he is quite the opposite: sociable, communicative, out-going and happy to converse with all and sundry, but especially with me, on the phone yesterday, giving me the rundown on his new existence as a sixth-former. His older brother (now 19) is also a changed character, but that would take several pages and might embarrass him.

Astitchintime Mon 23-Sept-24 18:51:47

I am not surprised the teenager didn't want to engage in conversation when sitting in the dentists waiting room - what was his dad thinking in making that call??

Embarrassing for the teenager and highly inappropriate in such a public place.

Cossy Mon 23-Sept-24 19:38:19

MissAdventure

She is fluent in grunt, i can confirm. smile

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